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newBF is A- just found out
found out after the facts:
we met and it was instant chemistry between us, fell for each other right away etc...i didnt know he was A, thought he had just had 2 much to drink for the week-end, since he had said that he had no drinking problem and that he would sober up for me etc..., but the next day he asked that i come see him again, i came and he got all drunk all over again (drinking beers back to back, liek 9 or 10 beers the evening, plus what he had already drunk before i arrived). I now just found out about his alcoholism thru his friend. unfortunetaly, unaware that he was an A, prior to finding that out, i had tried to talk to him (which was the big mistake), of course he now feel ashamed, feel judged by me, etc...he has now withdrawn and said overnight just like that that "its not gonna work" and does not even want to talk to me anymore, any way I can repair? am ready to email him a message that i didnt know, that i didnt mean to pressure, and that i will b there for him when he is ready to change the drinking he is a functioning A and does very well at his job etc...but then hits the bottle when he comes back from work i guess. i wish he had been franck with me from the begining and told me his problem, instea dof making me believe that he was gonna "sober up for me casue he loves me" etc...help, advices, please how can i repair this, we just met but am fallin hard for him.
we met and it was instant chemistry between us, fell for each other right away etc...i didnt know he was A, thought he had just had 2 much to drink for the week-end, since he had said that he had no drinking problem and that he would sober up for me etc..., but the next day he asked that i come see him again, i came and he got all drunk all over again (drinking beers back to back, liek 9 or 10 beers the evening, plus what he had already drunk before i arrived). I now just found out about his alcoholism thru his friend. unfortunetaly, unaware that he was an A, prior to finding that out, i had tried to talk to him (which was the big mistake), of course he now feel ashamed, feel judged by me, etc...he has now withdrawn and said overnight just like that that "its not gonna work" and does not even want to talk to me anymore, any way I can repair? am ready to email him a message that i didnt know, that i didnt mean to pressure, and that i will b there for him when he is ready to change the drinking he is a functioning A and does very well at his job etc...but then hits the bottle when he comes back from work i guess. i wish he had been franck with me from the begining and told me his problem, instea dof making me believe that he was gonna "sober up for me casue he loves me" etc...help, advices, please how can i repair this, we just met but am fallin hard for him.
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