coolray

Hi All......I don't even know where to start. I'm here because my wife is an alcoholic and intellectually I know there's nothing I can do about it. I've recently identified my enabling and co-dependent behaviors of the past few years. These have contributed to my being an emotional train wreck. I need to get well. So that's why I'm here. Heck, I'm a licensed therapist who works in the area of A and D. But let me tell you the shoe is really on the other foot. Recently, I threw down the gauntlet to my wife that I am joining Al Anon and plan to focus on me. I told her I was tired of the verbal and emotional abuse...not to mention the manipulation (guilt, shame, games). I no longer believe I'm the one at fault. She ain't happy and may move out. Part of my head is screaming to run and try to talk her into staying. But I won't. Need your prayers and support. Cool Ray:ghug3

bellakeller

I know this is so hard to try doing things differently after years of trying the same ole thing which never worked anyway. The least damage to be done is to save one of you and sometimes we need help getting there.

I hope you find some peace in Al Anon. Also, there are some people on this board who have been or are currently where you are and could probably be your best support here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/

Hold your bottom line and take care of yourself.

PaperDolls

Welcome Cool Ray! Glad you found us.

ArgentOfSilvae

Welcome to SR Cool Ray

Dee74

Welcome Cool Ray
For what it's worth I think you're doing the right thing.

You'll find a lot of support here - please do check out the FF forum as well

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Hevyn

Hi coolray! Many years ago when I was struggling with my husband's alcoholism, I wish I'd had the knowledge you do. I was the classic enabler, and nothing I said or did helped him, despite my best intentions. Al-Anon sounds like a great idea.