setting a sobriety date
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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setting a sobriety date
I'm sitting a date.. this might sound stupid.. but I have not drank in a week and 1/2,, but on Nov 10th I am going to have one last glass of wine. Because I want my first day to be.. 1.11.11. one, one, one, one, one....
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Meblonde - Not to be harsh, but playing with dates and days is like playing with fire. If you are alcoholic then how are you convincing yourself that you will only have ONE glass of wine. I have not met one person that has a drink and says goodbye, as for me this would trigger my mental obsession and thats all I would think about and eventually get drunk. Usually people quit after a bender due to the physical and mental imbalance which gets them through a couple of days and then they just keep going as they have a base to start with. Could you imagine a heroine addict saying lets shoot up one last time......well I'm sure you can get where I'm going. Again sorry if this is harsh but setting a date is weak.
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Originally Posted by VolcomStone51 
Meblonde - Not to be harsh, but playing with dates and days is like playing with fire. If you are alcoholic then how are you convincing yourself that you will only have ONE glass of wine. I have not met one person that has a drink and says goodbye, as for me this would trigger my mental obsession and thats all I would think about and eventually get drunk. Usually people quit after a bender due to the physical and mental imbalance which gets them through a couple of days and then they just keep going as they have a base to start with. Could you imagine a heroine addict saying lets shoot up one last time......well I'm sure you can get where I'm going. Again sorry if this is harsh but setting a date is weak.
All it serves to do it to ingrain in the mind that you are giving up something, that you are now in sacrifice mode.
Then they wonder why the quit rate for nicotine is slow low...
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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Originally Posted by VolcomStone51
Meblonde - Not to be harsh, but playing with dates and days is like playing with fire. If you are alcoholic then how are you convincing yourself that you will only have ONE glass of wine. I have not met one person that has a drink and says goodbye, as for me this would trigger my mental obsession and thats all I would think about and eventually get drunk. Usually people quit after a bender due to the physical and mental imbalance which gets them through a couple of days and then they just keep going as they have a base to start with. Could you imagine a heroine addict saying lets shoot up one last time......well I'm sure you can get where I'm going. Again sorry if this is harsh but setting a date is weak.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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Originally Posted by VolcomStone51
I understand you would be excited, but what are your plans between 11/1/11 and now? Also, I guess I worry if you have chosen this based on the interesting date? If this is so, and an unfortunate relapse takes place would you wait for another meaningful/interesting date to start again? I am just worried as is seems like a fun thing to try on this particular date (I may be wrong in my assumption). I am not trying to be mean by any means, I just am playing the devil's advocate. For me I woke up one day after a few prior attempts and realized my life was not my life anymore and I was being ruled by alcohol and have not touched anything since. I wish you luck with your sobriety!
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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Originally Posted by DarkDays
Agree about setting dates, I would start right this second 
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Originally Posted by meblonde
.. one persons ways DOES not make it right for everyone..
When I got sober, I had to consider on a very fundamental level whether my continued failure at maintaining sobriety actually qualified me to know what was best where staying sober was concerned. Things changed dramatically when I became willing to consider 'somebody else's way.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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Originally Posted by keithj
True enough. Perhaps after 5 years of unsuccessfully doing it your way, you might be willing to consider another way that has worked for others?
When I got sober, I had to consider on a very fundamental level whether my continued failure at maintaining sobriety actually qualified me to know what was best where staying sober was concerned. Things changed dramatically when I became willing to consider 'somebody else's way.
When I got sober, I had to consider on a very fundamental level whether my continued failure at maintaining sobriety actually qualified me to know what was best where staying sober was concerned. Things changed dramatically when I became willing to consider 'somebody else's way.
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meblonde, please don't get offended or leave. Rather try and listen to the message instead of focusing on the way it it coming across. I also used to set future dates to quit all the time. I can't say it ever worked. I think if you really want to quit you should do it immediately. Or at least seek medical advice as soon as possible. There is no point to delaying your journey to sobriety. Some cliches spring to mind - "Life is short" and "There's no time like the present". I wish you the best in your recovery.
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Originally Posted by 30Sober
meblonde, please don't get offended or leave. Rather try and listen to the message instead of focusing on the way it it coming across. I also used to set future dates to quit all the time. I can't say it ever worked. I think if you really want to quit you should do it immediately. Or at least seek medical advice as soon as possible. There is no point to delaying your journey to sobriety. Some cliches spring to mind - "Life is short" and "There's no time like the present". I wish you the best in your recovery.
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You're free to do what you want meblonde...but knowing what I know now - now I see what an amazing life there is once I free myself from the chains of my addiction?
I wouldn't wait one more day
Yeah 11.11.11 is a cool date - but 1.11.11 is pretty cool too...
but it's not really about dates - it's about making the decision to stop hurting ourselves.
That's the really important thing, to me.
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I wouldn't wait one more day
Yeah 11.11.11 is a cool date - but 1.11.11 is pretty cool too...
but it's not really about dates - it's about making the decision to stop hurting ourselves.
That's the really important thing, to me.
D
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Oh my gosh me blonde I can completely relate to you I've had it going thru my head forever how cool it would be to say that my sober date is 11.11.11! I've decided the date isn't the most important thing. I've worked hard 24 hours at a time to get to this 24 hours and it hasn't been easy. I feel like it would completely devalue the time I do have AND I can't be absolutely sure it wouldn't trigger a landslide. And what if next year I decide I like the date 12.12.12. I don't know how many more sobering up chances I have left and personally when those thoughts enter my head I dismiss them as being the alcoholic voice inside of me which I'm trying very hard to overcome. If I take a drink on purpose to change my sobriety date then I feel that in some small way I'm letting that alcoholic voice win and I'm not being COMPLETELY honest with myself and others. Kind of taking the seriousness of sobriety in my life lightly and not honoring it. That's just me tho. I had to respond because it hit so close to home for me! I hope it all works out for you and we will be here to encourage and support you no matter what you do with your date!
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meblonde - I apologize if you took what I said as you personally were weak, I just think it is weak to set a date to stop when you are already stopped. This just sounds kind of like a game to me, and that doesn't site well with me.
I wish anyone who has to battle with alcohol the gift of sobriety, and I hope that you find it sooner than later, that's all.
I wish anyone who has to battle with alcohol the gift of sobriety, and I hope that you find it sooner than later, that's all.
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Been drinking 30 some years. I know my drinking habits
pretty well. I couldn't have a sip. Seriously. If I planned
a sip for any date it would be a damn big sip/sip/sip/sip...etc.
I sincerely hope it works for you. We're all differnt.
pretty well. I couldn't have a sip. Seriously. If I planned
a sip for any date it would be a damn big sip/sip/sip/sip...etc.
I sincerely hope it works for you. We're all differnt.
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So lemme get this straight, you have already quit drinking, and because that quit date wasn't a good day your gonna go back out, drink again, or have a "sip" so you can quit on November 11th???
Ahh the insanity of addiction lol.
Ahh the insanity of addiction lol.
Peace, No More Guilt 9/28/2010
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Originally Posted by Revielle1980
So lemme get this straight, you have already quit drinking, and because that quit date wasn't a good day your gonna go back out, drink again, or have a "sip" so you can quit on November 11th???
Ahh the insanity of addiction lol.
Ahh the insanity of addiction lol.
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