Addiction Can Make You Stronger!
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Addiction Can Make You Stronger!
If you can face it & beat it. Thought that Wayne Dyer said this quite eloquently after hearing about his leukemia recently. May he come through it ok.
"I have come to this place where I'm aware of what is possible for me that I never thought of before. When I had the diagnosis of leukemia, the first 30 minutes after I found out was kind of a denial. I thought, "I eat the right foods, I don't do drugs, I exercise, I meditate." And then something astonishing happened to me--I began to realize that everything in my life that has happened--growing up in an orphanage, addictions, a heart attack--every one of them made me a stronger person. I realized that the storms of our lives leave beauty in the carvings." - Dr. Wayne Dyer, LIVE at ICDI Pasadena
"I have come to this place where I'm aware of what is possible for me that I never thought of before. When I had the diagnosis of leukemia, the first 30 minutes after I found out was kind of a denial. I thought, "I eat the right foods, I don't do drugs, I exercise, I meditate." And then something astonishing happened to me--I began to realize that everything in my life that has happened--growing up in an orphanage, addictions, a heart attack--every one of them made me a stronger person. I realized that the storms of our lives leave beauty in the carvings." - Dr. Wayne Dyer, LIVE at ICDI Pasadena
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I'm so tired of hearing this crap about What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger. I am a walking mess. The only strength I have is in everyday life when I don't let my guard down. The truth is? From my perspective? What doesn't kill you leaves you less likely to hope and dream... which makes you stronger because you lose the delusion that everything will get better.
Everything does not get better if the things that got you to the bottom were bad enough.
I'm strong. Lots of people tell me I am the strongest person they know. You know why? Because I have lived through hell. I may be strong to the public but... I will never get better. Even sober. There is no fixing the after affects of this.
With that being said, sober desperation is better than drunk desperation. I still choose sober.
Everything does not get better if the things that got you to the bottom were bad enough.
I'm strong. Lots of people tell me I am the strongest person they know. You know why? Because I have lived through hell. I may be strong to the public but... I will never get better. Even sober. There is no fixing the after affects of this.
With that being said, sober desperation is better than drunk desperation. I still choose sober.
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I thought much the same way as you did LSNP - even for a good while after I got sober.
But things do get better...not overnight maybe, but they do get better. Noone would be here if they didn't
Gradually as my life changed, I did too - I reconnected with the genuine me I'd lost through years of drinking - younger in spirit, less damaged, less cynical...
The more I stayed sober and built a new life, I discovered a lot of what I thought for years was me was actually a me warped by addiction.
I hope, in time, you'll make a similar discovery
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But things do get better...not overnight maybe, but they do get better. Noone would be here if they didn't
Gradually as my life changed, I did too - I reconnected with the genuine me I'd lost through years of drinking - younger in spirit, less damaged, less cynical...
The more I stayed sober and built a new life, I discovered a lot of what I thought for years was me was actually a me warped by addiction.
I hope, in time, you'll make a similar discovery
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Originally Posted by LSNP 
I'm so tired of hearing this crap about What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger. I am a walking mess. The only strength I have is in everyday life when I don't let my guard down. The truth is? From my perspective? What doesn't kill you leaves you less likely to hope and dream... which makes you stronger because you lose the delusion that everything will get better.
That's why I believe the old cliche "Victims don't stay sober".
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From a song: "What doesn't kill you makes you linger".
But like Boleo said it's all in the attitude.
I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. When I'm in a bad place I try to think: "OK, in one week will this still be upsetting me?" if yes then "In one month? 3 months? A year? 10 years? When I'm on my death bed?" Eventually there's a time frame for everything when troubles stop mattering. But that doesn't mean you ignore them and wait for time of course, you have to help yourself.
But like Boleo said it's all in the attitude.
I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. When I'm in a bad place I try to think: "OK, in one week will this still be upsetting me?" if yes then "In one month? 3 months? A year? 10 years? When I'm on my death bed?" Eventually there's a time frame for everything when troubles stop mattering. But that doesn't mean you ignore them and wait for time of course, you have to help yourself.
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Thanks for sharing that, NewBeginning - 
I hadn't realized that Wayne Dyer has luekemia (my father has it too, but an extremely rare form of it). His books always turn me around when I'm in a negative place......I love collecting quotes that inspire me, and that's a good one. Here's a couple back at ya:
"The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind." Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
"Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn."
~Barbara Rose~
I hadn't realized that Wayne Dyer has luekemia (my father has it too, but an extremely rare form of it). His books always turn me around when I'm in a negative place......I love collecting quotes that inspire me, and that's a good one. Here's a couple back at ya:"The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind." Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
"Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn."
~Barbara Rose~
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Originally Posted by NewBeginning010
If you can face it & beat it. Thought that Wayne Dyer said this quite eloquently after hearing about his leukemia recently. May he come through it ok.
"I have come to this place where I'm aware of what is possible for me that I never thought of before. When I had the diagnosis of leukemia, the first 30 minutes after I found out was kind of a denial. I thought, "I eat the right foods, I don't do drugs, I exercise, I meditate." And then something astonishing happened to me--I began to realize that everything in my life that has happened--growing up in an orphanage, addictions, a heart attack--every one of them made me a stronger person. I realized that the storms of our lives leave beauty in the carvings." - Dr. Wayne Dyer, LIVE at ICDI Pasadena
"I have come to this place where I'm aware of what is possible for me that I never thought of before. When I had the diagnosis of leukemia, the first 30 minutes after I found out was kind of a denial. I thought, "I eat the right foods, I don't do drugs, I exercise, I meditate." And then something astonishing happened to me--I began to realize that everything in my life that has happened--growing up in an orphanage, addictions, a heart attack--every one of them made me a stronger person. I realized that the storms of our lives leave beauty in the carvings." - Dr. Wayne Dyer, LIVE at ICDI Pasadena
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