humbled

I am back again. The serenity prayer helps me. Its only been two months since my son's release from prison. (he's 29). Got an apartment with his school money, was evicted because of his involvement with bath salts (really bad stuff), went into another apartment without too much trouble, but now again, has been given 30 days to move out. I have not seen him this bad ever, maybe its because he has alienated himself from all of his former "friends" and they helped to cover it up, or maybe I was just too blinded myself. He's lost weight, is delusional at times, mumbles to himself, says he sees people who aren't there, the apartment complex manager said she was afraid for not only him but the other tenants. I have been attending alanon meetings, listening mostly for the past couple of weeks, I did speak of my situation until last night, one guy said I needed to go to NarcAnon meetings instead, well I had gone to the NarcAnon meeting and they told me I needed Al anon. It amazes me, although we have made great strides forward with addiction services and help groups, there is still an extreme lack of awareness and or acceptance about addiction. As, for my son, I am trying real hard not to "help" him out of this situation. I asked him earlier if he would like to go to an NA meeting, he said "no, he doesn't believe he is powerless over drugs or alcohol". I am praying Ephesians 6, placing a hedge of protection around my son and myself and family.

Ann

I'm keeping your boy in my prayers too, that he finds a better path soon.

It's so hard to watch someone we love self-destruct and it's just sad that there is nothing we can do to stop the insanity of addiction.

Hugs from one mama to another.

Kindeyes

humbled
I go to both Nar-anon and Al-anon meetings. Nar-anon is my home group but I get so much help from Al-anon that I go there too (my son is a drug addict and alcoholic so I "qualify").

Do what you need to do for you. It's the best thing we can do for ourselves and for our sons. You and your son are in my prayers today.

gentle hugs
ke

outtolunch

That's a darn shame. Codependency is codenpendency. Can you find another group.

BTW, Narcanon is a non 12 steps program affiliated with the Church of Scientology. Many confuse them with Nar-Anon until they become aware of the difference.

TMZ

You can't control him, but keep suggesting NA. He will come around when he is ready.

I attend Nar-anon, I think that you would like that group better. Hope there is one near you.


Sending prayers and strength,

YearForMe

In all of the Alanon or Naranon meetings I have ever been to, they have never told anyone that they shouldn't be there.

Windblown

Bath Salts made the rappers on the posters in my son's room come out and attack him. He was delusional. Bath salts are a nightmare and the come down off of them makes people suicidal and paranoid. And they are legal! Many states are banning them...they are the worst of meth, exstacy and coke combined...full of noxious chemicals and they are not regulated. He won't know what he's getting....

But he's a big boy...29 years old. Alanon and counselling and support here are helping me a lot. It's not your fault. No guilt for me or you...promise o.k.? Step 1 and the serenity prayer....sometimes when my head is reeling I crush the worries with the repetitions of these. Sometimes I wonder who's life is more hellish...ours or the addicts?

seekinganswrs

Will be praying for you and your son. Thanks you for your post. I have never heard of bath salts, but I try to stay up to date on what is going around so I can educate my children. It's scary to think the things that are legal out there that kids can get their hands on and have no idea what they are getting into. Believing for restoration for your son and family!

humbled

Thanks to all for your support and suggestions. Yes, I too thought co-dependence is co-dependence, whether it be alcohol, drugs, food, porn, whatever. His comment still resonates in my mind, "this group is alanon, for friends and family of alcoholics, you need narc anon"Probably won't go back to that group. SR really helps. They are in the process of making bath salts illegal. However as with everything else they can still get it. My son, who has done a lot of things over the years even admitted it was the worst thing he had ever taken. The insanity is that he goes back and does more.