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Earth Child
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland
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hi
Sorry we havent been around for a while a lot of things going on right now .
Our dad died , we think that he killed himself , the funeral is yet to happen .
My mother wants us to have a drink at the wake ans we feel like we need to drink , but am stopping our selfs from doing it because we know we would just keep drinking and not stop.
Its been 9 weeks and 2 days since the last time we had a drink or drugs
We want to keep sober
Our dad died , we think that he killed himself , the funeral is yet to happen .
My mother wants us to have a drink at the wake ans we feel like we need to drink , but am stopping our selfs from doing it because we know we would just keep drinking and not stop.
Its been 9 weeks and 2 days since the last time we had a drink or drugs
We want to keep sober
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Location: Atlanta
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(((DA))) - I'm so sorry about your dad. Good for you on your sober time, and trust me..getting drunk/using over a death or any other bad thing just makes it worse...you'll have to deal with the grief at some point, and then you have the added bad feelings of having gotten numb in the first place.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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Hello DA. Very sorry to hear about your father. As the others said, drinking won't help a thing - and you don't need it in your life.
Congratulations on not drinking or drugging for over 9 weeks - that is wonderful news.
Congratulations on not drinking or drugging for over 9 weeks - that is wonderful news.
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Chicago
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Sorry to hear about your father, and congratulations on your sobriety. Nine weeks seems like forever to someone like me who's just starting out! Thanks for being a good example to those of us who are struggling. Stay strong.
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Darkasylum,
How are you feeling about your father's death? Do you have someone whom you can talk to about it, the implications for you and the others.
Your mother can't physically make you drink. Good for you on the 9 weeks.
CaiHong
How are you feeling about your father's death? Do you have someone whom you can talk to about it, the implications for you and the others.
Your mother can't physically make you drink. Good for you on the 9 weeks.
CaiHong
I agree drinking will make things 10 times worse for you. Things will only keep getting better, and long term no matter what if you don't use. Best of luck
Earth Child
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland
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We aren't been coping so well ..we have cut and wanting to do it again.
We have to be ok for our mum.
We cried the once and only for a few minutes when we first found out he had died.
It feels unreal , like a nightmare , Cant believe he is gone.
We don't have anyone to talk to apart from my husband we don't trust therapists or counselors because of things in the past.
Last night we found out the cause of death there where two causes of death, one was his heart and the other was falling from a height. so we have no idea what one it was but he didn't suffer.
Also our mother has cancer of the cervix and is debating weather or not to have the treatment because of our fathers death.
We are scared that we are going to lose our mother as well.
Me and my husband talked about the wake and decided that i wont drink and if my mother pressures me into it i will just tell her not thank you
There are also other reasons apart from my alcoholism that i dont want to drink there are religious reasons i have became Muslim so drinking and taking drugs are not allowed.
This i am glad that they don't allow it .
Thank you everyone for your support.
Ella
We have to be ok for our mum.
We cried the once and only for a few minutes when we first found out he had died.
It feels unreal , like a nightmare , Cant believe he is gone.
We don't have anyone to talk to apart from my husband we don't trust therapists or counselors because of things in the past.
Last night we found out the cause of death there where two causes of death, one was his heart and the other was falling from a height. so we have no idea what one it was but he didn't suffer.
Also our mother has cancer of the cervix and is debating weather or not to have the treatment because of our fathers death.
We are scared that we are going to lose our mother as well.
Me and my husband talked about the wake and decided that i wont drink and if my mother pressures me into it i will just tell her not thank you
There are also other reasons apart from my alcoholism that i dont want to drink there are religious reasons i have became Muslim so drinking and taking drugs are not allowed.
This i am glad that they don't allow it .
Thank you everyone for your support.
Ella
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