Starting again...
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 32
Starting again...
Hello all.. I've been around here before and had 30 days sober last October. And then, well, you know. I thought I'd be okay to drink just a little (yeah right) and then here I am almost a year later hungover and ashamed. Blah!
I think one thing that I need to do this time is to find an AA meeting. It's so scary for me, but I found out that I can't do this alone.
Anyway, I just needed to get this out there this morning. Thanks for being here, I appreciate it.
I think one thing that I need to do this time is to find an AA meeting. It's so scary for me, but I found out that I can't do this alone.
Anyway, I just needed to get this out there this morning. Thanks for being here, I appreciate it.
Life the gift of recovery!
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Home is where the heart is
Posts: 7,061
Welcome back. Too often people don't make it back.
I know AA can be scary but there are things you can do to ease this and fairly quickly get past the discomfort. When they ask if there is anyone new here, go ahead and raise your hand. This gives everyone a chance to know that you need help and guidance. If the meeting you go to is anything like my homegroup you will find a lot of support by doing that. Don't be afraid to talk to people that you hear speak in the meeting if you hear something from them that makes sense or makes you feel like you would like to know them better. Arrive early and stay late. This allows others a better chance to see and talk with you. I have found that a support group has been at times the only thing that has saved me from taking that first drink. It is very important to build one early.
Hang in there and again glad you made it back.
I know AA can be scary but there are things you can do to ease this and fairly quickly get past the discomfort. When they ask if there is anyone new here, go ahead and raise your hand. This gives everyone a chance to know that you need help and guidance. If the meeting you go to is anything like my homegroup you will find a lot of support by doing that. Don't be afraid to talk to people that you hear speak in the meeting if you hear something from them that makes sense or makes you feel like you would like to know them better. Arrive early and stay late. This allows others a better chance to see and talk with you. I have found that a support group has been at times the only thing that has saved me from taking that first drink. It is very important to build one early.
Hang in there and again glad you made it back.
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Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Rhode Island
Posts: 443
Well, I'm new here, but I've found we're all welcome, without judgment.
I've done the "I can just drink moderately/socially/whatever way you want to word it" but we all know, the vast majority of us here can never do that. Once we accept that, least for me, it makes it a whole lot easier.
Many times, things are simply just black and white, and alcohol to an alcoholic is one of them.
I've done the "I can just drink moderately/socially/whatever way you want to word it" but we all know, the vast majority of us here can never do that. Once we accept that, least for me, it makes it a whole lot easier.
Many times, things are simply just black and white, and alcohol to an alcoholic is one of them.
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Oxnard (The Nard), CA, USA.
Posts: 13,889
Welcome back.
Getting sober and staying sober is about trying out new healthy ways to think and act. I glad your trying something different this time that can help.
Getting sober and staying sober is about trying out new healthy ways to think and act. I glad your trying something different this time that can help.
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Arizona
Posts: 3,680
Hi, I'm an addict, and they STILL let me hang around this place! But they said it was a good idea to get clean, so I did, then they said it was a good idea to stay clean. And I liked being clean pretty good, but I thought I might still like bein dirty now and then...well, I learned, and it sounds like you did too, that clean is a whole lot better than dirty!
But old habits die hard. I found one new habit that helps is coming here and hanging out.
As I walked over here tonight to get online, I recalled some words I heard when I first got into recovery (two relapses ago...) you were lonely in addiction, you don't have to be lonely in recovery! That is the mantra I used to get me off my butt, put on my shoes and walkin over here. I have had a big bad ugly lonely week...and it felt way too much like it did when I was using. Now, the good news is that these days, my friends are in recovery...so, if I don't want to be alone, I have to be around people living clean! It helps.
But old habits die hard. I found one new habit that helps is coming here and hanging out.
As I walked over here tonight to get online, I recalled some words I heard when I first got into recovery (two relapses ago...) you were lonely in addiction, you don't have to be lonely in recovery! That is the mantra I used to get me off my butt, put on my shoes and walkin over here. I have had a big bad ugly lonely week...and it felt way too much like it did when I was using. Now, the good news is that these days, my friends are in recovery...so, if I don't want to be alone, I have to be around people living clean! It helps.
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