August 4 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON
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August 4 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON
August 4 in The Little Blue Book ONE DAY at a TIME in AL-ANON:
One source of frustration we seldom recognize is in expecting too much of others or expecting too specifically what we feel they ought to be, say, give or do.
If I expect another person to react in a certain way to a given situation, and he or she fails to meet my expectation, have I the right to be disappointed or angry?
Every human being has his own individual drives and motivations, beyond my understanding and control. I may say, “But he knew what I expected,” not realizing that it may have been precisely for this reason that he rebelled and acted otherwise.
My search for peace of mind will bear fruit much more readily if I stop expecting and relax into acceptance.
TODAY’S REMINDER
I will not set a pattern based on my own experience and wishes – and expect someone else to live up to it. This is interference of a subtle and damaging kind; it damages my peace of mind and dignity, and those I am smothering with my expectations.
“I, too, often fail to live up to the expectations of others.”
One source of frustration we seldom recognize is in expecting too much of others or expecting too specifically what we feel they ought to be, say, give or do.
If I expect another person to react in a certain way to a given situation, and he or she fails to meet my expectation, have I the right to be disappointed or angry?
Every human being has his own individual drives and motivations, beyond my understanding and control. I may say, “But he knew what I expected,” not realizing that it may have been precisely for this reason that he rebelled and acted otherwise.
My search for peace of mind will bear fruit much more readily if I stop expecting and relax into acceptance.
TODAY’S REMINDER
I will not set a pattern based on my own experience and wishes – and expect someone else to live up to it. This is interference of a subtle and damaging kind; it damages my peace of mind and dignity, and those I am smothering with my expectations.
“I, too, often fail to live up to the expectations of others.”
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