she1

Most of the time he is supportive. Yesterday he just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Everything I did or said was wrong. He called me a pill head. I wasn't arguing with him it just came out of nowhere. How do you deal with that?

she1

I'm not whining cuz he called me a pill head. I mean I'm trying to fix things. But that is just one of the nicer things he said to me yesterday.

flutter

What do you mean he gets 'ill'? Sorry you're having trouble. I know when I first got sober, it was really eye opening when I realized the reality of my life as it was. I truly believe that it's a whole life change. Are you getting any support from meetings or a counselor?

stacylove

Ugh! Men! (sorry men ),
Let's see women, what names have we been called? The 'B' word, ho, junkie, bad mother, stupid, ugly, loser, etc...... I think of it as jealousy, or as I tell my kid, "Hurtful comments usually indicate someone unhappy with themselves".

"Profanity is the effort of a feeble mind to express itself forcibly"

Shrug it off please, you are an intelligent and beautiful woman in our eyes

Opivotal

IMO it's verbal abuse! Please do not accept this kind of behavior. No matter what you've gone through....name calling is not acceptable. It's a way to take any self esteem you have and crush it. Also, its a form of control. Perhaps ,your hubby feels threatened that you are going to get better, and he will lose his power over you.






Best Wishes To You!!

lookinforward

Well put stacylove! Not offended on my end as a man. I said some very ignorant and hateful things when I was drinking and more so when I was hung over drunk!!! To add on to what staceylove said .....His comments do not define YOU.
You are trying to better yourself and your life and do not let other people influence what you know is right in your heart.
Stick around this is a great place.
Day by Day
Dave