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Old 07-18-2011, 01:53 AM
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Greetings. I am here for the same reasons as everyone else, I suppose. I have a drinking problem. I am at the point where I am admitting it & owning it (painful as that may be), so I knew it was time to reach out for support.

My issue is binge drinking & I've been doing this off & on for 10 years. I started when I turned 21. Now, at 31, I am on a path of healing & change & I know that I need to grow up & get this under control. I have so many great things happening in my life right now & I do not want to mess it all up with any more binges.

I drink socially. I tend towards social anxiety, so the drinking loosens me up & makes me feel like I can talk to people more easily & have more fun. I know this is a dangerous illusion. Truly, I feel lucky & grateful I'm not dead by now after all the amazingly dangerous & stupid things I have done.

This is hard for me. To admit I have a drinking problem when I'm just a weekend social drinker sucks. There are times when I will stop at one or two, but more often than not it is more than that & I get drunk. I feel bad about the way things have escalated, I want to turn my life around. I am tired of the cycle of going overboard and/or making a fool of myself, then having to apologize for something the next day & feel depressed & embarrassed. I am stronger than that, I know I can change. I hope this site can help me.
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Old 07-18-2011, 03:16 AM
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hi TenYearsGone

A lot of what you wrote resonates with me
this site really helped me turn my life around - I hope we can help you too

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Old 07-18-2011, 03:53 AM
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Welcome to SR TenYearsGone! Glad to have you here.

I can totally relate. I too was a binge drinker. You'll find a lot of support here!
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Welcome TenYearsGone! You've come to a great place for support.




Best Wishes To You!
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I was a weekend drinker...every day. Good of you to consider stopping before it gets to that stage.
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Old 07-19-2011, 02:12 PM
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Thank you all for the warm welcome So far I feel good about my choice, glad to stop now before things progress into full-blown, every day drinking.
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Old 07-19-2011, 02:18 PM
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Welcome to SR ((TenYearsGone))!! I, too, am glad you're addressing this before it gets worse...I wish I'd paid attention to the warning signs before I got to where I did, before finally seeking recovery.

SR has been a huge help in my recovery, I'm glad you found us!

Hugs and prayers,

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Old 07-19-2011, 02:20 PM
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Old 07-19-2011, 02:22 PM
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Thank you Impurrfect for your kind words & the adorable pictures! I considered trying to moderate, but then I started looking back at the times I've tried that before. I would do well for long stretches at times, but it always seems to keep escalating for me. My husband is a recovered alcoholic & has been worried about & frustrated with me. I told him last night I was going to quit & that I had joined SR. It felt good to see how proud he was of me for taking control of the situation on my own, without his prompting.
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Old 07-19-2011, 02:23 PM
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Welcome TYG! Glad you found us.

I can relate to the type of drinking you describe .... that's how it started for me. It progressed for sure.....I didn't become a daily drinker but I was on that path. My binges started out being a one night binge and progressed to 4 day binges.

Life is much better for me today!
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Good to know you are heading into a soberfuture....welcome...

It's great your husband is going to be a live support ..
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Old 07-19-2011, 05:38 PM
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Hi TenYearsGone and welcome . Your in the right place there is plenty of good advice here.
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Old 07-19-2011, 05:45 PM
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Welcome TYG!

I expect loads of people will relate to your post - I certainly do.

You've found a great place.
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Old 07-19-2011, 06:07 PM
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Welcome! Getting support here has made all the difference for me. It was hard to make that first post, but I'm so glad I did. If we can do it, so can you!
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Old 07-19-2011, 06:20 PM
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I am stronger than that, I know I can change. I hope this site can help me.
Tapping into my inner power to change with support of helpful others here at SR has really helped.
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Old 07-19-2011, 07:15 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement everyone, I do appreciate all the comments!! Happy to be in a supportive community
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Old 07-19-2011, 07:26 PM
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Welcome!

This a great place to find support.

Try not to beat yourself up about your past behavior, but instead take pride in the fact that you are making a life decision that demonstrates your maturity and wisdom. It takes balls to admit you have a problem and real maturity (and strength) to seek help. I commend you!

Take care.
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Old 07-19-2011, 07:47 PM
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Old 07-19-2011, 07:50 PM
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Thank you Josh. I've always been willing to make necessary changes, this one has taken me a while, though. I am still scared I will be weak when I am in a tempting situation. I try to remember past achievements to encourage me. I quit smoking cigarettes cold turkey after more than a pack a day for 13 years. I quit experimenting with other drugs, too. This is next. Just want to let it go.
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