dogged

what are the chances that if a person claims they are staying clean( not taking any drugs) but has started drinking wont that lead him back to the drugs?

Seren

Hi dogged,

You may get many answers to this one. While I don't know whether or not drinking will lead back to drugs, I do believe that someone is not "clean" if they have just switched from one mind-altering substance to another.

How are you doing today?

Hugs, HG

dogged

im doing ok, back in the cycle again, this is getting real old...

Seren

(((dogged))) This cycle can end if you want it to. You will know when you have had enough.

Just remember, didn't Cause, can't Control, can't Cure.

Hoping things get better for you.

Hugs, HG

dollydo

My exabf would always drink heavily when he was trying not to use crack, and, everytime it would lead him back to drugs. He was/is a mean, abusive drunk, drank at home, at least when he went on a drug binge he wasn't home and gone for a few days.

Freedom1990

Alcohol is a drug.

peanut21

Sorry to say my brother was a meth user and when he would try to stop the meth he would drink heavily. Eventually he always went back to the meth because the alcohol would not give him the high he was searching for.

HopeAwaits

My XAH said he had to stop drinking because it always led him to use and no matter where he went the Fellow users found him.

Maybe not for all but I think they go hand in hand, either together or seperate

JustAYak

If he's using alcohol as a replacement, he's really just switching out his favorite drug for another drug that seems to do a similar job. Alcohol is seen as a lesser evil socially, but it's really just as harmful as any other substance out there. Either way, he'll either keep drinking to the point where that becomes his main addiction, or he'll switch back over to his DOC (drug of choice). Alcohol isn't a tool that should be used to get clean...it just doesn't work like that.

Latte

That is a tough one.

What are your boundaries?

Taking5

Latte nailed it for me. Alcohol is a legal substance, but what are your boundaries? Is using alcohol ok with you?

dogged

well i told him if he is going to continue drinkng we will be over,, i cant waste anymore time on a relationship that is going no where. so i left and i havent talked to him since, granted its only been a few days, but i am going to stick with it this, ihave done all that i could for him thier is nothing else left to do the rest is up to him, only he can change what he wants.. right now my focus i s going to be on me,, if he wants to mess up his life again so be it, but i refuse to put my hopes and dreams on hold any longer..

dogged

i also know that all of this is happening for a reason even though i may not understand why, but i know god is with me and everything will be ok, he has always looked out for me and has provided when i needed it,

rayofsunshine

Glad you're doing ok dogged... sometimes we have to let go or be dragged!
Stay strong, put your happiness first, God will take care of the rest.