rdhsupport

Any other significant others of opiate addicts in reccovery notice the insatiable increase in sex drive?

somberheart

Yes, when my husband came out of rehab the first time he had a constant need for sex. He was/is an opiate addict as well. I'm not sure why this is, but I could always tell when he was using again...and then when he wasn't...(outside of the massive mood swings and temper tantrums he would throw) because of the sex drive.

fourmaggie

gosh, you guys where lucky...mine could not get it up....at all...

Danielle1

My addict while on opiates knew I could tell when he was using .. He couldn't get full erection or counld not finish.. He talked I good talk tho... But when he wasn't using the first couple days he was always ready to go and last 2min..

lightseeker

I think that a lot of people with substance abuse issues have an underlying sexual addiction. Hyper sexuality is one of the signs that this might be going on. Just a thought.

fourmaggie

Hyper?...never heard of that before....

Chino

Their bodies are craving endorphins and orgasm is the fastest route.

TD252

I guess my experience is the opposite. The opiates killed her sex drive and being clean for two months has done nothing to bring it back.

rlee5

@TD252
I can definitely relate. My boyfriend has no sex drive whatsoever. He has only been clean from heroin a little over a week so I know I should give it more time. But sometimes I wonder if he ever will get it back?

sTiLlhErE1986

I can definately relate to you all! My BF has a heroin addiction and when he had been using heavily lately there was zero sex drive, except right after he used, which was a cue for me! Any others have that experience??

rdhsupport

My BF is in recovery for morphine and is detoxing off of klonopin as well, so maybe it has something to do with the type of opiate and/or the mixture??

As for before, he and I have always had a pretty comfortable sex life for being together almost 2 years. We love eachother and the sex was good, but he couldn't get fully erect (probably 85-90% of his "full potential"), sometimes couldn't finish or took FOREVER to finish and usually blamed it on klonopin or break-through pain (his morphine use stemmed from medical neccesity). We were having sex probably 2-3 times a week on average and with my work schedule and his work schedule, it was fine.

Now though... WOW!

He gets 100% erect and we are having sex 4-6 times a day... which with my sex drive, I don't mind.

I know the difference between intimate and impulsive sex, and it has been intimate thus far. I am not concerned about sex addiction (unless I have one too lol) and am enjoying the new wind in his sails

Needless to say, I know this pace won't keep up, but I feel like we were when we first got together. I am just enjoying the reconnection. I feel like I got my BF back.

solowife

my husband of two years is a opiate addict. I was dumb to it for a year and a half, and he is now 7 weeks in to a 29 month prison sentence for burglary. I was very nieve about drug use but i would often do internet research to learn what he was taking. He really did not have a sex drive at all and if we did have sex it is because I iniated it about once a week. As a wife I felt so devistated to have my husband act as if he was not sexually attracted to me. I know I am not alone now. It is great to read all the threads that seem to relate to my situation so well.

BarelyHere

My ah had a very large opiate addiction that he hid from me for 5-6 yrs. Our sex life for 15 years had ben "very" good. Then it disappeared. He was cold, distant, rude & uninterested sexually. I spent years suspecting & trying to catch him in an affair.
In December he admitted to his big opiate addiction. Part of me was relieved. No affair.
Then 3 months after his non use of opiates, came the hyper sexuality. It went on for two months. I then went to feeling like just a person for him to have sex with.
This last month this has leveled out a lot.
I have read this is normal..Can't say it made me feel very good. Just hoping these are steps to recovery. Looking forward to a normal sex life again. With feeling

Cyranoak

Opiates numb you. Do the math. That's why it goes from zero to sixty, then throttles back to something more "normal."

Cyranoak

P.s. I got tired just reading 4 to 6 times a day. Good God, how do you get anything done? I don't even have time to have sex 4 times a day.

jezzaB

You all guys are lucky. Support them to recover. That would mean a lot.

fourmaggie

*shakes head*..well it was HIS problem not mine...i can find "other ways"...so what does that mean he could not even get it up...i mean it was a dead HORSE....LMAO..god am i bad or what...LOL

rdhsupport

LOL You ladies make me laugh... In the beginning it was 4-6 times a day, and you all are thinking the recovery time was significant, when it was more like 15-20 minute fun, 15-20 minute recovery, 15-20 minute fun... and repeat Now we are down to 2-3 times a day, more time for other projects, but still up there.

Thanks for the laugh.

nothing2011

I have had the same problem my AH is a MAJOR opoid addict and in active addiction I too would try to catch him cheating because sex went to nothing when he is a sex fean. I would not get it or if he tried same results as above either nothing or half and went forever and meant nothing (AH calls it dope d@#$). I can also tell that way because when clean 100% and within a minute but that minute is great. Now I have nothing I kicked him out hehehehe oh did I laugh out loud sorry wait no I'm not I will Be HAPPY