I did it!
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I did it!
Hi Everyone: Just an update, now nearly 5 months with out drinking - who would believe it! not me for sure, but here I am.
I had a large family gathering on the weekend and it had an open bar. This situation scares me a lot but over the months my resolve to no longer drink has become strong and is now a fact.
I was offered drinks a lot and just said no thanks, had my diet coke in hand, interesting to observe the last few family members out by the bar in the cold, also how I could smell the alcohol. What I want to share with any new comers is I used to think that I was boring if I did not drink, it appears this is not the case! I was a hit, smiling, laughing, I could not count how many times people said how great I looked, words like beautiful, full of life, It was a totally love fest and my heart was so full. It was a huge wake up call that the disease had been lying to me that I needed it, when really I don't.
After I said no to the first drink it was actually easy saying no the more it was offered, felt quite proud of myself! Thanks everyone. SR is my grounding and I still read around and post a bit for at least an hour each day. For those who are just starting keep it up as it is really worth it.
But if I had not given myself the chance to stay sober and see I would never have known.
I had a large family gathering on the weekend and it had an open bar. This situation scares me a lot but over the months my resolve to no longer drink has become strong and is now a fact.
I was offered drinks a lot and just said no thanks, had my diet coke in hand, interesting to observe the last few family members out by the bar in the cold, also how I could smell the alcohol. What I want to share with any new comers is I used to think that I was boring if I did not drink, it appears this is not the case! I was a hit, smiling, laughing, I could not count how many times people said how great I looked, words like beautiful, full of life, It was a totally love fest and my heart was so full. It was a huge wake up call that the disease had been lying to me that I needed it, when really I don't.
After I said no to the first drink it was actually easy saying no the more it was offered, felt quite proud of myself! Thanks everyone. SR is my grounding and I still read around and post a bit for at least an hour each day. For those who are just starting keep it up as it is really worth it.
But if I had not given myself the chance to stay sober and see I would never have known.
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Great job! It's funny because I never realized how ugly I was as a drunk, yet how accepted and likable I am sober. I have been to more than a few events where I used to basically hide by the bar and not mingle, just BS with the other drunks, now I really enjoy myself in social settings and I enjoy talking to people and not worrying about whether Im inappropriate or slurring. I also enjoy talking to people who have been drinking...(not loaded), because I get to hear their true thoughts and most people don't have filters or the ability to hold their real feelings in when they drink. I don't judge, but I always feel I have the upper hand, and always remember the conversation.
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Almost 5 months AND turning down drinks at an open bar?? AMAZING!! This is inspiring, thanks for sharing. Good job, as well!
I hear what you mean about the "boring" thing. For me, I'm the least fun person in the world to be around once I've had a few. Sober, I'm naturally outgoing, silly, and quirky... After drinks I'm depressing, mean, emotionally unstable... Don't know why it took so long to get it?? I hope I can be as strong as you and remember all this when I finally have a big function to attend.
Good job again!!
I hear what you mean about the "boring" thing. For me, I'm the least fun person in the world to be around once I've had a few. Sober, I'm naturally outgoing, silly, and quirky... After drinks I'm depressing, mean, emotionally unstable... Don't know why it took so long to get it?? I hope I can be as strong as you and remember all this when I finally have a big function to attend.
Good job again!!
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