Don't Stop Living Your Life - Language of Letting Go
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Don't Stop Living Your Life - Language of Letting Go
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Don't stop living your life!
So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold and torment ourselves with obsessive thoughts.
Abandoning our life or routines contributes to the problem and delays us from finding the solution.
Frequently, the solution comes when we let go enough to live our life, return to our routine, and stop obsessing about the problem.
Sometimes, even if we don't feel like we have let go or can let go, we can act as if we have, and that will help bring about the letting go we desire.
You don't have to give up your power to problems. You can take your focus off your problem and direct it to your life, trusting that doing so will bring you closer to a solution.
Today, I will go on living my life and tending to my routine. I will decide, as often as I need to, to stop obsessing about whatever is bothering me. If I don't feel like letting go of a particular thing, I will act as if I have let go of it until my feelings match my behavior.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Don't stop living your life!
So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold and torment ourselves with obsessive thoughts.
Abandoning our life or routines contributes to the problem and delays us from finding the solution.
Frequently, the solution comes when we let go enough to live our life, return to our routine, and stop obsessing about the problem.
Sometimes, even if we don't feel like we have let go or can let go, we can act as if we have, and that will help bring about the letting go we desire.
You don't have to give up your power to problems. You can take your focus off your problem and direct it to your life, trusting that doing so will bring you closer to a solution.
Today, I will go on living my life and tending to my routine. I will decide, as often as I need to, to stop obsessing about whatever is bothering me. If I don't feel like letting go of a particular thing, I will act as if I have let go of it until my feelings match my behavior.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I put my life on hold when I worried about my son, or when his drama landed on my doorstep,
or when he needed my help and when he didn't but I needed to help anyway.
I put my life on hold when I was too ashamed to interact with family or old friends
for fear they would discover how dark my world had become.
I put my life on hold waiting for my son to get clean. And I put my life on hold fearing his relapse which, sadly, always came.
I isolated, withdrew emotionally and became a neurotic mess.
When I could no longer stand the person I had become, I found a meeting, dragged myself there and sat and cried
because I couldn't speak for the emotion that flowed.
I found recovery there and slowly found a small bit of light called "life" and knew here was hope, even for me.
I have never looked back. Today I wake up every morning tickled pink to be alive.
I embrace every sunrise and live each day as if making up for the days I missed while my life was on hold.
Today I have new dreams for tomorrow and, God willing, I will live those dreams and more.
How wonderful life became...when I stopped putting it on hold.
Hugs
or when he needed my help and when he didn't but I needed to help anyway.
I put my life on hold when I was too ashamed to interact with family or old friends
for fear they would discover how dark my world had become.
I put my life on hold waiting for my son to get clean. And I put my life on hold fearing his relapse which, sadly, always came.
I isolated, withdrew emotionally and became a neurotic mess.
When I could no longer stand the person I had become, I found a meeting, dragged myself there and sat and cried
because I couldn't speak for the emotion that flowed.
I found recovery there and slowly found a small bit of light called "life" and knew here was hope, even for me.
I have never looked back. Today I wake up every morning tickled pink to be alive.
I embrace every sunrise and live each day as if making up for the days I missed while my life was on hold.
Today I have new dreams for tomorrow and, God willing, I will live those dreams and more.
How wonderful life became...when I stopped putting it on hold.
Hugs
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Thank you Ann, this is good stuff.
It is good to know of other ways to achieve the end result, for sometimes the usual way is too hard. So act as if, and that may bring about good- that is good news!
So the secret may be to "quit thinking about" the thing we need to detach from? That sounds like it might be easier to do than "trying to figure out how to" detach.
hugs
chicory
It is good to know of other ways to achieve the end result, for sometimes the usual way is too hard. So act as if, and that may bring about good- that is good news!
So the secret may be to "quit thinking about" the thing we need to detach from? That sounds like it might be easier to do than "trying to figure out how to" detach.
hugs
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[QUOTE=Ann;2972785]
I so understand this.
And someday, I pray that this is my reality.
I put my life on hold when I was too ashamed to interact with family or old friends
for fear they would discover how dark my world had become.
for fear they would discover how dark my world had become.
I embrace every sunrise and live each day as if making up for the days I missed while my life was on hold.
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