eaglette

As many of you know, I was in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship for 7 years. I can safely say I was a codependent and an enabler. A year later, I am with a wonderful man who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I know it is advised to wait to get into a relationship in a case like mine, but when you know, you know, and I know about this one. However, I know that I am still healing from the abuse of the past seven years. I picked up heavy pot smoking along the line and am now 35 days clean. Since I quit, I have been actually processing my emotions instead of suppressing them whenever I feel so much as a twinge of irritability. It irritates me to no end that the abuse I endured is affecting my thoughts and fears within my new, fulfilling relationship. I know that there are some things I have to get past, but I don't fully know how, or even what they are. How do people deal with the aftermath and change their thought patterns?

suki44883

Therapy can help. It's good to get these things out so you can move forward and a trained therapist can help.

MsPINKAcres

Congrats on the healthier life ! Good for you!

working the program of Al-Anon helped me along with SR, prayer with the God of my understanding, visiting with recovery friends and lots of healthy self-care!

wishing you the best -
PINK HUGS,
Rita

lightseeker

congratulations on your 35 days. A lot of emotions can start coming out once you stop using a substance and maybe that's what is happening. Abuse can cause post traumatic stress disorder and maybe you are suffering from a bit of that?

I agree that working an Alanon program can really help a lot. I am struggling with the abuse that I have endured in my marriage and definitely see how it can continue to affect you. Counselinging has also helped me a lot.

Hope you'll stick around with us. Sending you warm thoughts!