dingding

Ive done around 100 days sober and am still obsessing about drinking. I was hoping it would go away but it hasnt. I could do with drinking 10 pints tonight. I'm not going to but i really want to.

bellakeller

this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life...but has been so worth the work.

hang in there. you can do this.

aasharon90

Think about how much you drank over a period
of time. It's a long time , right? And a lot of drinks,
right?

Now think about how long have you been sober
in comparison to drinking? Not very long, right?

It will take time to change from one old unhealthy
habit to a new healthy one. It wont happen over
night, but with a program of recovery in place building
it to be a solid firm one to live ur life on in a healthy,
happy one can happen.

Not over night but one day at a time and before you
know it you could end up in an awesome place in ur
life that is unbelievable.

I know, because I am at 20 yrs of many one days at
a time collected together to get me where I am today
starting out just like you.

Mcribb

I spent roughly 20 years drinking. I am expecting it will take a long time since old habits die hard.

dingding

Thanks everyone. I expected it to be hard at the beginning. The fact that it is on my mind all the time is difficult. Do you still think about it every day after a long period? I guess you do because you are here?

Missy7

Change the subject! I love to obsess so it's funny to hear myself say that, but do. Change the subject. You must be so happy with your 100 days.

dingding

I am. It's probably the main reason not to drink tonight. Just a bad night i guess. I will find a film to watch and open a can of Coke.

reggiewayne

I have been told that there will come a time (for all of us) that no human power can separate us from the first drink. I have experienced this myself. That's the reason we need a higher power in our life to come between us and that first drink.

This is obviously the AA message and I'm not sure if that is the program you are using. I do understand those paralyzing cravings. Feels like your entire world is closing in and you just want some relief. That relief for me was always the ease and comfort that came at once with a few drinks. Today, I find that same comfort (times 100) in my higher power. I know that sounds like BS, but it really is true.

I couldn't out-think this sh!t. The harder I tried to figure it out (not drinking) the harder it was. For me, admitting I'm powerless and asking my HP to remove the problem has worked. Don't know how or why it works, but it just does.

Hope this helps...

reggiewayne

I agree. This is the hardest / most rewarding thing I've ever done. Every day we have sober is a gift. Let's all make the most of it!!!

dingding

Sometimes its best not to sit, think and read things. Just been playing duets with my eldest daughter on the piano and i feel more positive. Another happy sober night. Phew!

Anna

I hope it gets easier for you soon.

Have you made other changes in your life besides stopping drinking?

smacked

I never think about drinking. That took hard work, and time.

What are you doing for your recovery other than changing up your choice of beverage?

SSIL75

When I had cravings I would consciously identify it was my 'alcoholic voice', not a real thing.. just an alcoholic though and then I would consciously do something new to meet whatever need I had. Like maybe I was tired or lonely or hungry or whatever.

It felt like rewiring my brain in a way. I had been sober before (in pregnancy) but never did anything about the alcoholic thoughts and so nothing really changed.

dingding

I havent changed anything else. All the bad things that happened to me were through drinking. So i stopped. is it not that simple?!

recycle

At a little over six months, never a day goes by where I do not think about drinking at least once. I would not call it an obsession or a craving, it is more like an old injury. It just pops into my head, I acknowledge it, sometimes I explore it a little just to see if it has any feeling, and then I go on about my day.

Mcribb

Check out the book "there is more to quitting drinking, than quitting drinking" or the AA big book. Alcohol his such a powerful drug you have to throw some good feelings at it or else it can be difficult to quit. I had to throw in constant support of people and a 12 step program. That helped me get there day at at a time.

LaFemme

HI and welcome to SR!

Most people need to work on some things when they get sober in order to stay sober.

For me, I have worked with a Life Coach, read self-help books and participated on SR. My whole attitude towards life has pretty much changed, and it needed to.

I come to SR today though, mostly for the camraderie and in the hopes that I can help someone who needs some advice....not because I am struggling.

Dee74

Well, stopping drinking wasn't enough for me.

Stopping was easy - I did hundreds of times - but to stay stopped I needed to look at my life and make a lot of changes.

I believe I starting drinking to fill a void - I needed to find out how to heal that void, not simply fill it temporarily.

It took me a while, but I no longer obsess about drinking

Welcome to SR
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