Buffalo66

My RAH decided last two days that I am a force of negativity in his life.

I am drinking alcohol. Yes. First time in 6 months, as I abstained to support his efforts.

Says he can't handle my instability!

I came out w a few girlfriends who kindly reminded me that I am not an alcoholic, and it's ok to unwind w a few drinks.

Drinking alcohol makes me feel like I am sleeping w the enemy.

But I am at a bar . One and a half drinks in, posting on SR.

Hmmm...

Tuffgirl

My RAH decided last two days that I am a force of negativity in his life. Heard that one!

I am drinking alcohol. Yes. First time in 6 months, as I abstained to support his efforts. I am too, a stout, my favorite.

Says he can't handle my instability! Mine either, I am "crazy" - and need "psychiatric help"

I came out w a few girlfriends who kindly reminded me that I am not an alcoholic, and it's ok to unwind w a few drinks. Yes, you are not an alcoholic and you can unwind with a few drinks!

Drinking alcohol makes me feel like I am sleeping w the enemy. Drinking makes me sleepy, period.

But I am at a bar . One and a half drinks in, posting on SR. You should be having a good time, not posting on SR!


But I am glad you did, so I can smile, nod my head, and go to bed knowing I am not the crazy person. Nope - that was him. Now B66, go enjoy your instability! Revel in it! You deserve it!

japabp2000

Big Hugs!! Sorry to hear that he is trying to put a guilt trip on you. I am currently at the point to where I can't even stand the smell of alcohol, and I use to enjoy a few beers and/or mixed drinks. But anymore, I hate even looking at a bottle. I'm sure someday I'll get back to being able to unwind with my friends. Enjoy yourself and be safe!

Impurrfect

Personally, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Sounds like he is jealous that you can drink and he can't.

I'm a recovering crack addict...I choose not to be around people who do crack. I have good recovery, but I just don't want to be around people abusing anything, but you're not abusing.

I don't know that there's anything you can do about it. You have the right to live your life the way you want to. If he can't handle it, that's his issue.

Sorry all this has happened.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

lillamy

It sounds very familiar... Enjoy your evening!!! (((hugs)))

TakingCharge999

Thiis image doesn't have to do with anything, but I thought you might like it:





Buffalo, how dare you !! *sarcasm*

XABF also decided I was a member of the Dark Force. Oh well.

japab: Yes you will, I thought I would never drink again, some time later I am back to "normal": red wine with pasta sometimes, a cocktail once in a while. Piña colada in the beach. No bad memories anymore, it was not the alcohol, it was the toxic person abusing it. I can drink one or two at most, and enjoy it, and I can hang around with people like me, that do not turn into Mr Hydes!

Whew! fresh air...

brokenheartfool

You drunk dialing us?
hahaha
hugs

TakingCharge999

bookwyrm

:rotfxko

BobbyJ

That made me laugh and reminded me of when my AH wanted to
send me to a $10 GRAND rehab for my 2 margarita's that I might
have in a years time....

I wish one in my life I could get plowed and call him
12 times every 1/2 hour with all of my random thoughts....LOL

Buffalo66

LOL @ BobbyJ

wanttobehealthy

Sounds a lot like my Fri a week or so ago. I came home after 1 glass of wine and dinner out with my mom. AH who'd stayed with the kids was pissed off and told me that I was drunk and out of control. I laughed out loud at that and it just made him angrier. Clearly in both situations our H's are angry that THEY are A's and can't drink normally so they want to project their issues on to us.

Glad you are/were out with gf's and enjoying a few drinks!

barb dwyer

Something I've learned in four short years of recovery...

whether or not you drink has nothing to do with my alcoholism.

And I can say fairly certainly
it doesn't affect anyone else's, either.

Sitting in a bar posting on SR, now...
that may be another animal altogether...LOL

Linkmeister

Now that's sweet revenge!!!!!!!:rotfxko

Cyranoak

**** that guy.

Cheers!

Cyranoak

Buffalo66

Just to clarify:

He was not saying this to me and cold shouldering, and guilt tripping me over having gone out to have a few drinks...
He has no idea that I drank. I will never tell him that.
Not his business.

He said he cant handle my "instability", and that I am too too negative for him.
He refuses to talk to me, has made no calls to/for son, for God knows what reason...out of the blue, but I am pretty sure it is because of this:

I messed up, and let him in the door a crack the last week or so..., and he knows no other way, but to use that as leverage.
He only knows how to play power games...so now, he is angry at me, because he is under the assumption ,I think, that it will crush me, and it IS messing with me a little...but not too bad at all.

I was drinking because I got a rare babysitter night, and went out.

I do think my good time gal days are gone, though
My relationship with alcohol will never be the same after him.

Thanks for all the lovely replys. Needed the laugh today.

Buffalo66

He is taking up too much real estate in my head right now...grrr

MeredithD1

thank you all so much for this thread and your humor - I LOVE George, oh my, I must wipe the drool from my chin - - -yummy!!

Oh Buffalo66, I've heard it too. Reminds me of psychology classes I took, "Projection." Getting projected onto from something my AH heard in therapy. "Let's talk about YOU 'cause I don't want to face ME."

Ummm - - - Let's not!!

glad you got the babysitter time to spend with friends.

Babyblue

What he is doing is called projecting.

Not to mention that to me, there is nothing worse than the preachings of a reformed sinner.

This is where eye-rolling comes in handy.

Go out and have fun!

brokenheartfool

I'm divorced now, but was my ex a bigamist and you're the other wife? Because this just sounds too darn familiar!