Help - I need support!!!
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Help - I need support!!!
Good Morning Yall,
I have a quick question. I am noq coming up on 2 months of being sober. Which is the longest I have gone in 4 years. I LOVE being sober and I am truly grateful for the time I have
My problem and the thing that makes me want to drink is that I the people who have been my freinds in the past all drink. I don't want to cut them out of my life. I have talked to each one of them and truly the SUPPORT me. Which makes it all th harder. Because I miss them... I really need help. I don;t want to drink. But, I miss the friendships I had because of it.
I truly know in the end I am better for not drinking. All drinking ever did was bring me sorrow and pain. I don't want anymore pain. But, how so I lose my closest peeps if they don't want to stop drinking?
In Need of Help....
Saliena
I have a quick question. I am noq coming up on 2 months of being sober. Which is the longest I have gone in 4 years. I LOVE being sober and I am truly grateful for the time I have
My problem and the thing that makes me want to drink is that I the people who have been my freinds in the past all drink. I don't want to cut them out of my life. I have talked to each one of them and truly the SUPPORT me. Which makes it all th harder. Because I miss them... I really need help. I don;t want to drink. But, I miss the friendships I had because of it.
I truly know in the end I am better for not drinking. All drinking ever did was bring me sorrow and pain. I don't want anymore pain. But, how so I lose my closest peeps if they don't want to stop drinking?
In Need of Help....
Saliena
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Hi saliena
I had to let a lot of people go in my life because although they said they supported me and they understood, they clearly didn't.
They still offered me 'just one', and they continued to offer me drinks even tho they knew my story and even after I'd said no.
Their social life never changed either, and while thats fair enough I also had to ask myself what I was doing hanging around in drinkfests and other social events that revolved around getting legless.
Thats a really bad place for a recovering alcoholic to be IMO.
I had other friends who, even if they didn't get it, out of respect for me, they didn't drag me to the pub, and they took time out talking me out of drinking in moments of madness.
They gave me support and respect and they proved to be my real friends, Saliena - not my drinking buddies.
D
I had to let a lot of people go in my life because although they said they supported me and they understood, they clearly didn't.
They still offered me 'just one', and they continued to offer me drinks even tho they knew my story and even after I'd said no.
Their social life never changed either, and while thats fair enough I also had to ask myself what I was doing hanging around in drinkfests and other social events that revolved around getting legless.
Thats a really bad place for a recovering alcoholic to be IMO.
I had other friends who, even if they didn't get it, out of respect for me, they didn't drag me to the pub, and they took time out talking me out of drinking in moments of madness.
They gave me support and respect and they proved to be my real friends, Saliena - not my drinking buddies.
D
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
Hi saliena
I had other friends who, even if they didn't get it, out of respect for me, they didn't drag me to the pub, and they took time out talking me out of drinking in moments of madness.
They gave me support and respect and they proved to be my real friends, Saliena - not my drinking buddies.
D
I had other friends who, even if they didn't get it, out of respect for me, they didn't drag me to the pub, and they took time out talking me out of drinking in moments of madness.
They gave me support and respect and they proved to be my real friends, Saliena - not my drinking buddies.
D
As for my friends... this week my husband and I bought a boat... and now we have our "friends" back.... which dropped us when I stopped drinking. That was hard for me. What I need to remember is those people aren't friends... they are people who support my drinking... and don't truly help.
I mean I love them... I do... but they need as much help as I am getting.
Dee thank you... I know support is selfish... but, you truly helped me tonight.
Regards,
Saliena
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Welcome to your new sober life. 
I realized that my family and friends went
on with their lives just as it always was before
during and after my drinking. In fact no one
missed a beat of their lives just cause I was
struggling with my alcohol addiction.
And what I say to them......Im happy for ya.
For me, I have to take care of me because no
one else will. And no one else will care because
they have their own lives to live.
I found fellowship, support, care, love, understanding
and so one from people just like me. Alcoholics in recovery.
I found out that I didnt have to go thru recovery alone
or by myself because someone was always there to lend
an ear or share their own experiences, strengths
and hopes to support me.
Accepting all ur friends and family just as they are makes
recovery alot easier. Members in recovery will always be
their to accept you as you are with no and if or buts about it.
Recovery will give your strength, confidence within urself
to live a happy free sober life.
Stick with the WINNERS.
I realized that my family and friends went
on with their lives just as it always was before
during and after my drinking. In fact no one
missed a beat of their lives just cause I was
struggling with my alcohol addiction.
And what I say to them......Im happy for ya.
For me, I have to take care of me because no
one else will. And no one else will care because
they have their own lives to live.
I found fellowship, support, care, love, understanding
and so one from people just like me. Alcoholics in recovery.
I found out that I didnt have to go thru recovery alone
or by myself because someone was always there to lend
an ear or share their own experiences, strengths
and hopes to support me.
Accepting all ur friends and family just as they are makes
recovery alot easier. Members in recovery will always be
their to accept you as you are with no and if or buts about it.
Recovery will give your strength, confidence within urself
to live a happy free sober life.
Stick with the WINNERS.
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