LeadHatter

Im reading melanie beatties book co dependency no more [good book]

On page 62 under the chapter topic 'detachment' this mentions a same named leaflet that the author states 'has been passed around al anon meetings for years'. Does anyone have a copy of this leaflet or can explain or summaries its contents for me since this sounds like interesting useful information to have.

Reading this book is helping

kevo the

laurie6781

If you go to this web page of AlAnon:

http://www.al-anonestore.org/source/...hment+&x=0&y=0

Go down to the 3rd item, you can click on "click here for free download" and download it to your computer for reading.

Hope that helps.

Love and hugs,

Pelican

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It
does not imply judgement or condemnation
of the person or situation from which we are
detaching. Separating ourselves from the
adverse effects of another person’s alcoholism
can be a means of detaching: this does
not necessarily require physical separation.
Detachment can help us look at our situations
realistically and objectively.
Alcoholism is a family disease. Living
with the effects of someone else’s drinking
is too devastating for most people to bear
without help.
In Al-Anon we learn nothing we say or do
can cause or stop someone else’s drinking.
We are not responsible for another person’s
disease or recovery from it.
Detachment allows us to let go of our
obsession with another’s behavior and begin
to lead happier and more manageable lives,
lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by
a Power greater than ourselves. We can still
love the person without liking the behavior

Pelican

IN AL-ANON WE LEARN:
• Not to suffer because of the actions or
reactions of other people
• Not to allow ourselves to be used or
abused by others in the interest of
another’s recovery
• Not to do for others what they can do
for themselves
• Not to manipulate situations so others
will eat, go to bed, get up, pay bills, not
drink, or behave as we see fit
• Not to cover up for another’s mistakes
or misdeeds
• Not to create a crisis
• Not to prevent a crisis if it is in the natural
course of events
DETACHMENT
By learning to focus on ourselves, our
attitudes and well-being improve. We allow
the alcoholics in our lives to experience the
consequences of their own actions.

From Alanon Leaflet on Detachment

theuncertainty

Definitely needing reminders today about detachment. Thanks for sharing!

RollTide

Thanks for posting that, Pelican. I need to read it every day.

Linkmeister

That leaflet was in my newcomer's package and after reading it for the first time, I cried. It has become part of my life-I have copies in my purse, by my computer, phones, well, you get the idea.

I read it every day and some days more than others, practice detaching.

It's not always pretty, has caused a lot of controversy with the A in my life but it is my survival kit for dealing with alcoholism and for that matter, other members in my family (non-a's) who tend more to co-dependent behaviours.

blwninthewind

I love that book.

It has changed my life.