Having a difficult day
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Having a difficult day
Guess the title says it all...just having a tough day. Switched little J from old crappy daycare to new awesome daycare (his name finally got off the waiting list) but he absolutely melted down at the change. I know in a few days it'll be no big deal but my stomach just sank.
The whole ordeal was 10x worse because AW was supposed to have picked up forms all week last week and didn't do a damn thing about it. So instead I spent 90 minutes this morning doing paperwork. She's still in the middle of a binge, and while I'd been doing a good job of detaching from it the drinking is really getting under my skin right now. She complained about severe, hunched-over-crying-in-agony back pain through the weekend; called me while I was out with little J having a nice afternoon to ask me to take her to the doctor; but when I got home, wouldn't let me take her to the ER. Instead, she just lies there in pain rather than go to a hospital.
And yet she still wants joint custody? Sometimes I think her mind must be like one of the deeper, crazier layers of Inception. Or maybe What Dreams May Come? Whatever it is, it's not the same place that I live.
The whole ordeal was 10x worse because AW was supposed to have picked up forms all week last week and didn't do a damn thing about it. So instead I spent 90 minutes this morning doing paperwork. She's still in the middle of a binge, and while I'd been doing a good job of detaching from it the drinking is really getting under my skin right now. She complained about severe, hunched-over-crying-in-agony back pain through the weekend; called me while I was out with little J having a nice afternoon to ask me to take her to the doctor; but when I got home, wouldn't let me take her to the ER. Instead, she just lies there in pain rather than go to a hospital.
And yet she still wants joint custody? Sometimes I think her mind must be like one of the deeper, crazier layers of Inception. Or maybe What Dreams May Come? Whatever it is, it's not the same place that I live.
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Hi Jay -
hang in, bud.
If JayJr Broke his leg
it'd hurt
and it'd hurt to get it set properly
and it'd hurt while it healed
but you would go through with it, right?
That's what being a parent is all about.
He'll make new friends
and like the better care
he may be better already?
That's not something for you to carry
especially when it's to a better place.
I mean
if he was enjoying eating a bug
you'd still take it away from him
even though he'd cry, right?
remember H.A.L.T. and keep some boundaries and self-care rules as well, hon.
You're not alone.
hang in, bud.
If JayJr Broke his leg
it'd hurt
and it'd hurt to get it set properly
and it'd hurt while it healed
but you would go through with it, right?
That's what being a parent is all about.
He'll make new friends
and like the better care
he may be better already?
That's not something for you to carry
especially when it's to a better place.
I mean
if he was enjoying eating a bug
you'd still take it away from him
even though he'd cry, right?
remember H.A.L.T. and keep some boundaries and self-care rules as well, hon.
You're not alone.
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ah yes, the "come running to my rescue because I may be DYING but once you get here I want to continue writhing in pain so you'll feel sorry for me"...
Guess she feels like playing victim.
I'm glad you found a good daycare for Little J. Give him a week and he'll go happily. Transitions are always so hard for little ones...
Guess she feels like playing victim.
I'm glad you found a good daycare for Little J. Give him a week and he'll go happily. Transitions are always so hard for little ones...
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Feeling SO much better right now. One of the daycare folks emailed me some pictures of little J smiling, crawling, sleeping. Being his normal self, in other words. 
More than makes up for the crazy text I just got from AW asking me "where are you?"
Um, I'm at work. She doesn't know what day it is. Awesome.
More than makes up for the crazy text I just got from AW asking me "where are you?"Um, I'm at work. She doesn't know what day it is. Awesome.
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You are a single parent in a marriage. Makes one kinda crazy at times, eh?!
Kids are resilient - that's the good news. They bounce pretty quickly from emotion to emotion. The bad news is grown ups aren't quite as resilient. I hope you are taking care of yourself. Not an easy road you're on.
~T
Kids are resilient - that's the good news. They bounce pretty quickly from emotion to emotion. The bad news is grown ups aren't quite as resilient. I hope you are taking care of yourself. Not an easy road you're on.
~T
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I tried to take care of myself a little bit yesterday, went looking for my inner child. Bought myself some Legos. I've got 7 kits on my desk at work right now, our office is super-relaxed. Thank God I love my job.
I've got 7 kits on my desk at work right now, our office is super-relaxed. Thank God I love my job.
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Sounds like you are taking care of your little guy and yourself and it is a blessing you have a job that makes you happy and that gives you focus. Those are the good things in your life right now. Don't let the other stuff consume you.
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Originally Posted by jayscott 
I tried to take care of myself a little bit yesterday, went looking for my inner child. Bought myself some Legos. I've got 7 kits on my desk at work right now, our office is super-relaxed. Thank God I love my job.
I've got 7 kits on my desk at work right now, our office is super-relaxed. Thank God I love my job. Member
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Legos!? You get to play with Legos at work? Waaah!! I want a job where I can play with Legos!! Those are my favorite!! You said it!...Thank God you love your job! Can you imagine going thru all this cr*p at night AND hating your job during the day??!? OMG, I can't even go there. I love my job too and have been there a zillion years.
Daycare sounds awesome! Good job, Dad.
Daycare sounds awesome! Good job, Dad.
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