enodm

My 20 yr old AS will probably be going to jail for not being compliant with his court order. As a mother this breaks my heart to imagine him in jail. I have so many questions running through my mind... Will he FINALLY pull his head out? Will this be what he needs to stop all of his nonsense? Will he make it in jail? His probation will be up in May and he has slid along with the attitude of I wont go to jail. I think he had this attitude due to him always just getting slapped on the wrist with NO real consequences.
So hard!!

suki44883

It is hard, but he must face the consequences of his bad choices. He'll survive. He won't like it, but oh well. Jail time might give him the time to reassess where his life is heading, but then again, maybe not. There's just no way of knowing.

Take care of yourself. We're here to support you.

Seren

((((enodm)))) I'm sorry to hear about your son, but every adult has to experience the consequences of their actions. My A stepson has been in and out of county jails and prison over the last 1.5 years. He has survived, although he has not embraced any sort of recovery and is still drinking to the best of our knowledge.

I hope and pray that this will be a wake-up call for your son!

Hugs, HG

Kindeyes

enodm
It really hurts to watch them messing up their lives, doesn't it? You and your son will be in my prayers. I will pray that some jail time will be the thing that helps his turn his life in a positive direction.
gentle hugs

keepinon

Feelinng the consequences is always a good thing in my book.

enodm

I am the first one to say.. You messed up, you need to face the consequences... but now that it is approaching part of me wants to SAVE him, but I cant. Only he can save himself. He is such a great kid and I pray that this is his wake up call.

Impurrfect

He'll be fine in jail. I cried my eyes out, the first time I was in jail (a 4-day stint)..and the second (1 night). By the time I got locked up for 6 months, I just dealt with it.

I'm not saying that this won't be his bottom....I truly hope it is. I'm just saying that jail is a consequence many of us A's need, and when I relapsed the thought of PRISON, brought me to recovery.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again...the consequences of using pushed me more toward recovery than anything. I am grateful to my family for allowing me to feel those consequences.

I know my family slept, much better, knowing I was in jail...sad? Absolutely. However, they knew I was off the streets and not doing drugs.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

mooselips

enodm,
My youngest AS (age 32) is currently in jail serving a 2 year sentence for dealing.
This is his first trip to prison. Here, in Florida, they teach them a trade, so this may be a good thing. Depending on how you look at it.
I know enough not to rescue anymore, but it still hurts to the core.


My other son, age 37 has been in prison FOUR times, and is now out about a year, and SOBER. (or so he says)

3 hots and a cot is a good thing in my life.


Hugs from one mom to another.........