verobearo

i just don't know what to do anymore. my husband has been in inpatient treatment since the 11th of this month...he has called me 3 times since he was in there 2 of them only to ask for money. i saw him on monday briefly but he hasnt bothered to call me and i just dont even know if he wants to be in a relationship with me anymore. I dont know if im just wasting my time going to all the family meetings and the communication workshops. I don't know how to deal with all of this. I feel so alone. I wish i hated him so that I could just walk away. anyone else having spouses in inpatient going through this?

suki44883

When someone is in rehab, they have a fairly strict schedule. They are there to concentrate solely on themselves and how to get better. I've read many posts here about the spouse/fiance/girlfriend/boyfriend at home feeling left out. Unfortunately, that is part of the deal when a person goes inpatient. Their entire focus needs to be learning coping skills for when they return to life outside.

It's nothing personal, really. I understand how frustrating and lonely it can feel, but truly, he is in there in order to learn how to deal with life without self-medicating. That's very important and if he is successful, you will reap those benefits, too. Hang in there. It'll be okay.

verobearo

ya like i totally get that it is for him to get better but he has called his dad everyday. so he is choosing to not call me. thats what bothers me