I'm a failure
I'm a failure 
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,442
No tryto - let yourself down maybe, but not us.
We've been there and we all know how hard it is...we're with you
The thing is to look at where you went wrong and then to keep adding new things, new support, new ideas to whatever you've been doing so far...
This can be your last fall off the wagon if you want it to be
D
We've been there and we all know how hard it is...we're with you
The thing is to look at where you went wrong and then to keep adding new things, new support, new ideas to whatever you've been doing so far...
This can be your last fall off the wagon if you want it to be
D
Guest
Join Date: Sep 2010
Posts: 117
Well..
nobody's perfect
One perfect one
that's why we need Him
grace
I am not an addict,
but a friend of one..
We don't talk now,
I gave him to God,
but not because of his substance abuse..
You're not a failure
to God
or me,
even tho I don't know you..
I'll be praying for you now though
Jesus bless
nobody's perfect
One perfect one
that's why we need Him
grace
I am not an addict,
but a friend of one..
We don't talk now,
I gave him to God,
but not because of his substance abuse..
You're not a failure
to God
or me,
even tho I don't know you..
I'll be praying for you now though
Jesus bless
SR Fan
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Hi ttbs - this is a humbling disease.....
I'm sorry you slipped but glad you posted - it takes courage to do that. Just use this as a reminder of where you don't want to be and forgive yourself. I've been there, too. Sometimes we just have to get up and continue forward.
Hugs.......:ghug3
I'm sorry you slipped but glad you posted - it takes courage to do that. Just use this as a reminder of where you don't want to be and forgive yourself. I've been there, too. Sometimes we just have to get up and continue forward.
Hugs.......:ghug3
Looking For Myself...Sober
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Where the heart is
Posts: 10,209
Wow, I can so feel the sadness in your post.
Never look at it as letting anyone down. Not even yourself.
I am always told there is no shame in relapsing, just shame in staying out there.
Not saying its ok to do it and come right back. Just that its really good you came back so quick, did somehting about it right away.
Alot of people dont do that or make it back to try.
Awareness is key for me. Even if I fail a million times, I need to be aware of what I did wrong and what I need to do to make sure it doesnt happen again.
I'm not always good at it. But its good to assess what happened and sometimes why. Most important, What you can do differently.
The important thing is your back.
Never look at it as letting anyone down. Not even yourself.
I am always told there is no shame in relapsing, just shame in staying out there.
Not saying its ok to do it and come right back. Just that its really good you came back so quick, did somehting about it right away.
Alot of people dont do that or make it back to try.
Awareness is key for me. Even if I fail a million times, I need to be aware of what I did wrong and what I need to do to make sure it doesnt happen again.
I'm not always good at it. But its good to assess what happened and sometimes why. Most important, What you can do differently.
The important thing is your back.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: I'm exactly where I should be.
Posts: 1,889
I was thinking about your post title and thought to myself, FAILURE is such a strong mean word. YOU are not a failure...the choice you made failed you.
Failure is lightly defined as "the condition or fact of not achieving the desired end" which means that you just haven't achieved your goal. Which in turn means we try again. But please don't think YOU are a failure...just try again and achieve the desired end.
And I'm so glad you went to AA. =)
Failure is lightly defined as "the condition or fact of not achieving the desired end" which means that you just haven't achieved your goal. Which in turn means we try again. But please don't think YOU are a failure...just try again and achieve the desired end.
And I'm so glad you went to AA. =)
Member
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Ireland
Posts: 1,641
Nope, you are not a failure.
Failure, would be if you gave up and did nothing more.
You are back here and you went to an AA meeting.
Most of us relapsed a few times and God it sucks!
Why did you relapse?
Was there stuff in the house? Shouldn't be.
Take stock and read here. You know it is all here. You are by no means alone.
We understand and we send you big slobbery annoying hugs. Now get to a few AA meetings and batten down the hatches. It will stick, and it will be worth it.:day6
You are back here and you went to an AA meeting.
Most of us relapsed a few times and God it sucks!
Why did you relapse?
Was there stuff in the house? Shouldn't be.
Take stock and read here. You know it is all here. You are by no means alone.
We understand and we send you big slobbery annoying hugs. Now get to a few AA meetings and batten down the hatches. It will stick, and it will be worth it.:day6
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
My family did an intervention on me in August
of 1990. My sobriety date is 8-11-90. Hi Im
Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
I followed directions, instructions and suggestions
from members before me that have stayed sober
a many years at a time.
In doing so I have not had the desire to pick up
a drink of alcohol for the past 20 yrs. and for
that I am truely grateful.
of 1990. My sobriety date is 8-11-90. Hi Im
Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
I followed directions, instructions and suggestions
from members before me that have stayed sober
a many years at a time.
In doing so I have not had the desire to pick up
a drink of alcohol for the past 20 yrs. and for
that I am truely grateful.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: SE Michigan
Posts: 1,066
Hon if you're a failure you are in good company...I bet everyone here has relapsed at least once. I've done it countless times.
And, what ^ they ^ all said. Failing would be giving up. You're not doing that!
And, what ^ they ^ all said. Failing would be giving up. You're not doing that!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
Posts: 36,740
I had to re start my sobriety ...many times.
I don't consider they were a failure...because drinkers drink
until/unless they learn how to live sober...
Good to know you quickly started over...
I don't consider they were a failure...because drinkers drink
until/unless they learn how to live sober...
Good to know you quickly started over...
Snarf Snarf
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: ATL
Posts: 835
The AA rooms were absolutely the only places I felt safe when I stopped drinking. It's not a bad idea at all to go there, and to even go there a lot. As others have said, this can be your last Day 1. We're all here for you.
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