update, moving on
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update, moving on
well so it shall be. I amoving along with my sobrietry. Sometimes I have cravings sometimes they are gone. I feel conflicting emotions, I am not sure if I am depressed. Currently I feel empty, I do not want to do anything. I am wondering is anybody of you experiencing the same? I started in June last year, relapsed three times. I would tell you how far along I am in recovery, but I actually forgot the day I relapsed and started anew, lol I know how can I.
Situation at home is getting worse. Although my roomate promised to leave he did not. He continues blaming and making me feel guilty. I am at an end. Today I booked a hotel room for me for 1 week and will find an apartment afterwards. So here I am being harrassed out of my own house, but I am tired of fighting, trying to get him out. I know I could call the police, but I am afraid about his revenge, he got physical before. So the best for me is to leave and hope he will leave once they turn off electricity, water etc.
Still it sucks, but I actually feel that change is coming......
So anybody can give me advice or some support or cheering that would be great
Situation at home is getting worse. Although my roomate promised to leave he did not. He continues blaming and making me feel guilty. I am at an end. Today I booked a hotel room for me for 1 week and will find an apartment afterwards. So here I am being harrassed out of my own house, but I am tired of fighting, trying to get him out. I know I could call the police, but I am afraid about his revenge, he got physical before. So the best for me is to leave and hope he will leave once they turn off electricity, water etc.
Still it sucks, but I actually feel that change is coming......
So anybody can give me advice or some support or cheering that would be great
You ARE moving on
Congratulations on some very wise decisions. That emptiness does seem to go away, and I wish I could say something like "On Day 33, you will feel a surge of confidence..." but its different for everyone. You already understand that problems aren't just going to disappear because we're sober. YEAH, YOU!!!
It sucks you're the one forced to move on, but sometimes the path of least resistance is the only path worth taking. Your roommate sounds like a demon that's attached himself to you and will do everything in his power to make you feel as crappy about your life as he does. CONGRATS on seeing through that.
This may not look so great right now, but yo've got a LOT to be proud of !!
It sucks you're the one forced to move on, but sometimes the path of least resistance is the only path worth taking. Your roommate sounds like a demon that's attached himself to you and will do everything in his power to make you feel as crappy about your life as he does. CONGRATS on seeing through that.
This may not look so great right now, but yo've got a LOT to be proud of !!
Well, thats not the way I'd resolve the situation SASA...but if you can afford to do that and you're fine with it, more power to you.
I hope you feel a little happier when this current situation is resolved
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I hope you feel a little happier when this current situation is resolved
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yes I can definitly do things this way. I actually felt relief once I left my neighbourhood. I left my 3 cats with him, this really hurts, but I feel like I need the change and need to get him out. He will move in 3 month back to russia, so it is only for a short time.
I just feel so empty lately. Even when I made all this decisions I made them in a haze, fog. It did not even feel like I will do that it was more like oh well lets see, when I was searching for a hotel it was like lets see what is out there, I deserve a nicer place, lets see if I find one where I can treat myself etc......
I just wish I would understand my mind. However now that I moved I feel it was a good decision and I feel much better.......
So wellcome to my new life...... I am scared but also feel relief........
I know I am at least past 40 or 50 without alcohol, maybe even 2 month, but wish I could remember, my last relapse lasted just 1 day and it was only 1 bottle and I was not really drunk. I learned moved on.....
I just feel so empty lately. Even when I made all this decisions I made them in a haze, fog. It did not even feel like I will do that it was more like oh well lets see, when I was searching for a hotel it was like lets see what is out there, I deserve a nicer place, lets see if I find one where I can treat myself etc......
I just wish I would understand my mind. However now that I moved I feel it was a good decision and I feel much better.......
So wellcome to my new life...... I am scared but also feel relief........
I know I am at least past 40 or 50 without alcohol, maybe even 2 month, but wish I could remember, my last relapse lasted just 1 day and it was only 1 bottle and I was not really drunk. I learned moved on.....
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I'm sorry you are being threatened and bullied by this fool. i understand your fear and low tolerance for his behavior...some situations are simply not worth the immense effort.
you are removing yourself from a toxic situation. i hope you get the peace and congrats on your progress.... I have had more cravings than i have fingers and toes (sometimes in 24 hours), i have relapses, slips, slides into feeling depressed too...but then i remember how it was to have no hope and I KNOW i do not want that.
You will get through this and get your life back, the one that you want.
and Boo! Hiss! Demons on the roommate...may his prostate grow to the size of a beachball.
you are removing yourself from a toxic situation. i hope you get the peace and congrats on your progress.... I have had more cravings than i have fingers and toes (sometimes in 24 hours), i have relapses, slips, slides into feeling depressed too...but then i remember how it was to have no hope and I KNOW i do not want that.
You will get through this and get your life back, the one that you want.
and Boo! Hiss! Demons on the roommate...may his prostate grow to the size of a beachball.
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actually, it makes me feel better, too......
last talk we had:
situation, I made pepermint tea with water from the tab and got stomache pain. I told him that the tea is no good and that I had stomach pain. 1h later he comes says he does not feel well the tea gave him stomach pain too and it is my fault....
1) it was my tea
2) I told him it made me sick
so why is he blaming me????? He is nuts..... I think he complelty lost it. He wants to make me feel like sh..... to empower himself......
last talk we had:
situation, I made pepermint tea with water from the tab and got stomache pain. I told him that the tea is no good and that I had stomach pain. 1h later he comes says he does not feel well the tea gave him stomach pain too and it is my fault....
1) it was my tea
2) I told him it made me sick
so why is he blaming me????? He is nuts..... I think he complelty lost it. He wants to make me feel like sh..... to empower himself......
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may his prostate grow to be the size of a beachball AFTER he has consumed 100 ounces of liquids.
sometimes people are just plain a$$holes, drunk or sober.
BTW, i had an Xhusband who could have said the same thing....always blaming someone else, usually me...I divorced him and never regretted it....we had a child together and still maintained contact, but when i took care of myself and ignored him, he still couldn't deal....then he blamed his mother.
sometimes people are just plain a$$holes, drunk or sober.
BTW, i had an Xhusband who could have said the same thing....always blaming someone else, usually me...I divorced him and never regretted it....we had a child together and still maintained contact, but when i took care of myself and ignored him, he still couldn't deal....then he blamed his mother.
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this is funny. thanks I apreciate you cheering me up. He has no mother to blame, so I guess next it is my fault when they turn off the water and electricity since I moved and he has no money to pay for it.....
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