Kindeyes

I posted in another thread a laundry list of things that I have learned from working my program of recovery. I printed that list out and have hung it on my refridgerator to remind myself of all of those things. It was very empowering to see all of that stuff in writing. I would love to read about all of the things all of you have learned from walking this path of recovery. I think it might help those who are just beginning their journey.

I started my sentence(s) with:

I have learned.....


and please....feel free to list multiple things that you have learned. This was a really amazing exercise for me. I hope it will be helpful for some of you too.


gentle hugs

Kindeyes

I'll get things started.

I have learned.......

....that my son knows I love him no matter whether he is usng or not.
....that my son loves me whether he is using or not.
....that my son has a HP and I'm not it.

next?

barb dwyer

I have learned that
although some things may be too broken to be fixed...

...nothing is so bad that it cannot be healed
by being learned from.

sojourner

I have learned that even though I have accepted that my AS may die or be horribly disabled due to his addiction, my life has continued apart from that with new joys, new experiences, and hope for my own future. I have learned that his choices do not have the power to hold my life hostage, very similar to "The Great Divorce" by C.S. Lewis.

kilt

I have learned to keep away from people who don't live as I want to live. Best people in my life are those that take an interest in how I am.

ladyhawk69

I have learned that I deserve to be happy...

MsPINKAcres

I have learned that although my precious beautiful daughter may relapse many times

I do not have to relapse with her
I do not have to write her out of my life
and
I can love her in a healthy way with respect, dignity and the freedom that allows her to walk her own path

Chino

I have learned

... what personal boundaries mean and how to enforce them with love.
... how to stop accepting others realities and maintain my own identity.
... how to ask for and receive help.
... to accept people as they are this moment.
... that I'm going to be OK if I live one day at a time.

tam

I have learned:

1. there arent coincidences, things happen for a reason and that my HP is truly in charge.
2. not to project, things might not happen as I think they will
3. ask for help
4. learn from any uneventful situation in my life and think of the good that came out of it.
5. rest
6. try hard not to be around negative people and if I am work through it and dont let them bring me down.
7. how important it is to keep faith and sprituality in my daily life
8. nothing to fear but fear itself
9. stand proud of myself and remember I was a loving,loyal and caring wife.
10. everyone is in charge of their own destiny no matter what we think

wicked

I have learned

I am a good person despite what i think sometimes!

Hess

I have learned that I still have a lot to learn

litehorse

I have learned that -
everyone's journey is unique and telling someone else what to do is not usually helpful
God can work through even the worst of circumstances
taking one day at a time makes life much easier
there is no way to know it all

FGB

I have learned:

that I'm still learning,.
that I didn't cause it, can't control it, and can't cure it.
that it's ok to have boundaries.
that it's ok to be scared, but then turn it over to our/my hp.
FG B

greeteachday

I have learned that although I am powerless over what others do, I am indeed, empowered. I have a choice...I can stay in the darkness or I can choose a better life and work one day at a time to get there. No one can take that away from me. I am not a victim!

cessy68

Yep-- it was me that loooved your post- thanks for doing this!!
I've learned that:

Love can 'supidfy' the smartest woman....

Love is not uncondiontional unless it's first given to yourself.

Addiction sucks. (and I'm still learning a better way to 'look at it'). lol.

Love,
Cess

lost17

This is my first post, I have learned that

I also need help
I am addicted to my partners recovery
I need to find some strength

Kindeyes

OH I love all of you! You are helping me to add to my list of what I have learned (or may still need to learn!).

I have learned so much from SR, from all of YOU, and from my Alanon and Naranon Family Groups.

Thank you for sharing........keep 'em coming!

gentle hugs

coffeedrinker

I have learned that freedom from addiction has a price, often high.
But it is so very worth it.

MissTara

I have learned that I can not control the addicts in my life..
I have learned that I have to detach with love to keep my sanity..
I have learned that crying does not mean I have relapsed in my recovery, it means that I am human.

atalose

I have learned that I do have choices even thought all of my thoughts kept telling me I didn’t.