Dysfunction Junction
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Dysfunction Junction
I'd talked to LMC about an hour ago, I'd called her mom in reference to a Dr.s appointment next week. LMC sounded distant and "annoyed" for what ever reason. Luckily I've learned not to obsess about whatever mood she happens to be in at any given time, however it used to really bother me, what with wondering what was wrong/going on down there, etc..
She just called me back, totally different, upbeat mood. Told me she had a Christmas present that was a monkey dressed like a pirate (the Christmas at her mom's had a pirate theme since they live on a coastal island) that sings, and she played it and wanted to know if I could understand the "pirate song".
The song was "15 Men on a Dead man's Chest".....yo,ho,ho, and a bottle of rum. Any way she asked me if she could bring it home, I said, of course?
Then she added that the live in boyfriend had said I probably wouldn't let her because "it sang a drinking" song.
Nice.
Of course I'm cast as an unreasonable "teetotaler" because I sobered up and don't believe alcoholic drinking and kids mix. Ha!
Luckily what other people think of me is none of my business....thanks CatsPJ's, which doesn't change the fact that I'd like nothing more than to jack-slap that fool. But I won't. A man can dream, can't he?
Thanks ans God bless us all,
Coyote
She just called me back, totally different, upbeat mood. Told me she had a Christmas present that was a monkey dressed like a pirate (the Christmas at her mom's had a pirate theme since they live on a coastal island) that sings, and she played it and wanted to know if I could understand the "pirate song".
The song was "15 Men on a Dead man's Chest".....yo,ho,ho, and a bottle of rum. Any way she asked me if she could bring it home, I said, of course?
Then she added that the live in boyfriend had said I probably wouldn't let her because "it sang a drinking" song.
Nice.
Of course I'm cast as an unreasonable "teetotaler" because I sobered up and don't believe alcoholic drinking and kids mix. Ha!
Luckily what other people think of me is none of my business....thanks CatsPJ's, which doesn't change the fact that I'd like nothing more than to jack-slap that fool. But I won't. A man can dream, can't he?
Thanks ans God bless us all,
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Coyote,
I am guessing that LMC was the most mature person there. It is very annoying when adults don't know better than that.
My xh's wife used to tell my kids that I was crazy, controlling, stupid, etc. That was when they were young and visiting their dad and her. They were intimidated by her, and could not defend me, without loosing the bats of he!!. I really hated her those days, but could not do much about it, or the kids would not have been able to see their father (such as he was and is).
She recently made the dumb mistake of saying the same sort of things to me in an email, forwarded to my kids too. Needless to say, she is not the leader of the pack anymore, and they see her for the sick person she really is, and always was.
Paybacks are H@!!, aren't they?
hugs,
chicory
I am guessing that LMC was the most mature person there. It is very annoying when adults don't know better than that.
My xh's wife used to tell my kids that I was crazy, controlling, stupid, etc. That was when they were young and visiting their dad and her. They were intimidated by her, and could not defend me, without loosing the bats of he!!. I really hated her those days, but could not do much about it, or the kids would not have been able to see their father (such as he was and is).
She recently made the dumb mistake of saying the same sort of things to me in an email, forwarded to my kids too. Needless to say, she is not the leader of the pack anymore, and they see her for the sick person she really is, and always was.
Paybacks are H@!!, aren't they?
hugs,
chicory
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Then she added that the live in boyfriend had said I probably wouldn't let her because "it sang a drinking" song.
which doesn't change the fact that I'd like nothing more than to jack-slap that fool. But I won't. A man can dream, can't he?
ho ho ho and a bottle of rum!
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This completely brought Captain Jack Sparrow to mind. (sigh, I've had a crush on Johnny Depp since 21 Jump Street - and he does a lot of work with Make a Wish Foundation, which just makes him even cooler)
What a dodo. I'll dream of jack-slapping him, too. I'd imagine that if enough of us do, his head should be fairly ringing without having had a hand laid on him - serves him right.
Will restrain myself from ranting about how XAH celebrated Christmas with DS, because it's nothing I can control - I couldn't even if we were living together so, ppppppfth. I'll just include XAH in the imaginary jack-slapping.
Yo ho, yo ho.
What a dodo. I'll dream of jack-slapping him, too. I'd imagine that if enough of us do, his head should be fairly ringing without having had a hand laid on him - serves him right.
Will restrain myself from ranting about how XAH celebrated Christmas with DS, because it's nothing I can control - I couldn't even if we were living together so, ppppppfth. I'll just include XAH in the imaginary jack-slapping.
Yo ho, yo ho.
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Dear Coyote,
Although logically we know what others say/think of us should make no difference for some reason this is an area of trouble for me. I swear it takes me weeks to get over and process when someone zings me in a spot that is vulnerable.
Dont you feel silly trying to be a caring and proactive parent. Geez. She is lucky to have you!!!!!! She will thank you one day when she understands the big picture.
Hugs
Lulu
Although logically we know what others say/think of us should make no difference for some reason this is an area of trouble for me. I swear it takes me weeks to get over and process when someone zings me in a spot that is vulnerable.
Dont you feel silly trying to be a caring and proactive parent. Geez. She is lucky to have you!!!!!! She will thank you one day when she understands the big picture.
Hugs
Lulu
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Originally Posted by chicory 
Coyote,
I am guessing that LMC was the most mature person there.
I am guessing that LMC was the most mature person there.
What the hell do you have to do to yourself, for your heart to attack you at 40? Keith Richards' heart hasn't even attacked him, for crying out loud. IDK.
Denial is fascinating to observe, from a distance, that is.
Oh, and yes, jack-slap is the gender correct equivalent of the other. I kind of like "going all street on ya" myself! We'll trade.
Thanks for indulging my rant. I love you guys.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
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Originally Posted by Pelican
Dude needs to 'check himself before he wrecks himself'!
Yo ho ho and a bottle of scum!
Yo ho ho and a bottle of scum!
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I am grateful the one in that house is someone else and not you anymore coyote.
I am so glad LMC is so smart and has you.
I am in a cabin watching clouds passing. Small clouds in the bright blue sky. That is what this event is..... just a passing cloud... watch it leaving...
I am so glad LMC is so smart and has you.
I am in a cabin watching clouds passing. Small clouds in the bright blue sky. That is what this event is..... just a passing cloud... watch it leaving...
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Oh Coyote, this made me laugh. I used to call the corner where we lived Dysfunction Junction!
As my kids got older, they really started to see the differences in people. Honestly, I think growing up in some dysfunction served them well. (at the very least, they rolled with it and learned some good life lessons.) As young adults there isn't much they can't handle, and they've learned not to take stuff personally. I'm sorry they had to live in Dysfunction Junction for awhile, but they really know what recovery looks like!
I would guess that LMC will do the same. She has you and your recovery to learn from, and the difference between homes and lifestyles will be more and more apparent as she grows up.
You're a good dad. You guys are lucky to have each other.
As my kids got older, they really started to see the differences in people. Honestly, I think growing up in some dysfunction served them well. (at the very least, they rolled with it and learned some good life lessons.) As young adults there isn't much they can't handle, and they've learned not to take stuff personally. I'm sorry they had to live in Dysfunction Junction for awhile, but they really know what recovery looks like!
I would guess that LMC will do the same. She has you and your recovery to learn from, and the difference between homes and lifestyles will be more and more apparent as she grows up.
You're a good dad. You guys are lucky to have each other.
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Originally Posted by CatsPajamas
Oh Coyote, this made me laugh. I used to call the corner where we lived Dysfunction Junction!
As my kids got older, they really started to see the differences in people. Honestly, I think growing up in some dysfunction served them well. (at the very least, they rolled with it and learned some good life lessons.) As young adults there isn't much they can't handle, and they've learned not to take stuff personally. I'm sorry they had to live in Dysfunction Junction for awhile, but they really know what recovery looks like!
I would guess that LMC will do the same. She has you and your recovery to learn from, and the difference between homes and lifestyles will be more and more apparent as she grows up.
You're a good dad. You guys are lucky to have each other.
As my kids got older, they really started to see the differences in people. Honestly, I think growing up in some dysfunction served them well. (at the very least, they rolled with it and learned some good life lessons.) As young adults there isn't much they can't handle, and they've learned not to take stuff personally. I'm sorry they had to live in Dysfunction Junction for awhile, but they really know what recovery looks like!
I would guess that LMC will do the same. She has you and your recovery to learn from, and the difference between homes and lifestyles will be more and more apparent as she grows up.
You're a good dad. You guys are lucky to have each other.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
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