Hello, my name is.....
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Canada
Posts: 29
Hello, my name is.....
Melissa and, uh, I'm an alcoholic.
Oh God, there, I've actually said it. Today is Day One and I'm panicked already.
I have been a long time drinker - over twenty years now - with two year long breaks while I was pregnant / nursing my kids. I am now up to a bottle (or a bottle and a half) of wine a day.
My father was an alcoholic so I should know better. Somehow I still believe I'm not like him. Somehow I still believe I can control it (I can't, I know).
My husband is a drinker who will not be particularly supportive so I will be leaning on you folks for help
I want to get better. I want to stop getting chest pains and tingling in my fingers. I want to stop waking up in the morning and trying to remember what happened the night before. I want to be a good example for my kids.
I want to believe in myself. Believe that I can stop.
One day at a time I guess......
Oh God, there, I've actually said it. Today is Day One and I'm panicked already.
I have been a long time drinker - over twenty years now - with two year long breaks while I was pregnant / nursing my kids. I am now up to a bottle (or a bottle and a half) of wine a day.
My father was an alcoholic so I should know better. Somehow I still believe I'm not like him. Somehow I still believe I can control it (I can't, I know).
My husband is a drinker who will not be particularly supportive so I will be leaning on you folks for help
I want to get better. I want to stop getting chest pains and tingling in my fingers. I want to stop waking up in the morning and trying to remember what happened the night before. I want to be a good example for my kids.
I want to believe in myself. Believe that I can stop.
One day at a time I guess......
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Mississippi
Posts: 7,910
Welcome peanuts - you in the right place and you're not alone (infact you sound just exactly like me when I came here for the first time).
Read and post as much as you want. I think I spent the first couple of days glued to this place - it was so scary. I didn't want to quit but I didn't want it to go on either. You're right about taking it a day at a time (or less if you have to). Keep it simple too, or you're overwhelm yourself.
The good news is that you can do it and we're here for support. It gets better (SO much better, that I never want to go back). Hugs and prayers.....
Read and post as much as you want. I think I spent the first couple of days glued to this place - it was so scary. I didn't want to quit but I didn't want it to go on either. You're right about taking it a day at a time (or less if you have to). Keep it simple too, or you're overwhelm yourself.
The good news is that you can do it and we're here for support. It gets better (SO much better, that I never want to go back). Hugs and prayers.....
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: dayton, oh
Posts: 487
Melissa
You want to do this for yourself and that is a good start. You can stop, ask for help and support from your doctor, AA, SMART, your church and the friends you trust. I would start reading, pick up Under the Influence by James R. Milam.
Your recovery will be unique to you. Sobriety is a gift and once you experience life without booze you will know joy and gratitude.
The people here at SR will be here to support you whenever you need it.
SH
You want to do this for yourself and that is a good start. You can stop, ask for help and support from your doctor, AA, SMART, your church and the friends you trust. I would start reading, pick up Under the Influence by James R. Milam.
Your recovery will be unique to you. Sobriety is a gift and once you experience life without booze you will know joy and gratitude.
The people here at SR will be here to support you whenever you need it.
SH
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Colorado
Posts: 796
Welcome, and thanks for your post.
Quiting can be done. You never have to drink again. Maybe see a doctor to get checked out.
Support groups can offer lt's of in person help. Maybe you can check one out?
Congratulations on your decision to quit. It's the best thing I've ever done in my life, and you can do it, too.
Best to you!
Quiting can be done. You never have to drink again. Maybe see a doctor to get checked out.
Support groups can offer lt's of in person help. Maybe you can check one out?
Congratulations on your decision to quit. It's the best thing I've ever done in my life, and you can do it, too.
Best to you!
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Tampa
Posts: 178
Good for you. I hear everyone say "life is short." I agree. That's why actually living it in a sober state is imperative. I'd hate to grow old and have my adult kids saying "Daddy, do you remember when...." and I just look at them like they're ********.
All us non-drinkers have is yesterday and today. Yesterday is a memory and today is history in the making. Tomorrow won't matter until it's today and by that time today will be a notch in our belt and something we know we can handle.
Way to go!
All us non-drinkers have is yesterday and today. Yesterday is a memory and today is history in the making. Tomorrow won't matter until it's today and by that time today will be a notch in our belt and something we know we can handle.
Way to go!
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Tucson, AZ
Posts: 650
Welcome peanuts!
I was much like you, I used for a long time (12 years-- which is a lot considering I just turned 24) my breaks from drinking/using were only while I was pregnant (I still drank/used while nursing, something I regret now). I now have 94 days clean and sober-- a real miracle! Hope to see you around!
I was much like you, I used for a long time (12 years-- which is a lot considering I just turned 24) my breaks from drinking/using were only while I was pregnant (I still drank/used while nursing, something I regret now). I now have 94 days clean and sober-- a real miracle! Hope to see you around!
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: San Diego
Posts: 4,451
Welcome aboard, Melissa! You'll find no shortage of people who can relate—and no shortage of people who can inspire you with their tales of success (and sometimes with their experiences stumbling, too). In my short time here, the most important things I've learned others is:
1) It can be done
2) You're not alone
3) It's hard, but it's soooo worth it!
We have a class of December 2010 thread you should check out too.
You can do it!
1) It can be done
2) You're not alone
3) It's hard, but it's soooo worth it!
We have a class of December 2010 thread you should check out too.
You can do it!
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Great White North
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Originally Posted by ISPYSOBRIETY 
. I'd hate to grow old and have my adult kids saying "Daddy, do you remember when...." and I just look at them like they're ********.
welcome to the board peanut!
this is my day two again, so im right there with ya!
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