Loving an Addict, what am I supposed to do?
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Loving an Addict, what am I supposed to do?
Hello,
This is the first time I have been on and I am looking for advice or stories. I am not even sure if this is the right spot for it or not. My story: I have been with the same man for 8 years now. Our first 6 years were totaly blissful and loving. My husband is an, what do I call it,... Reaccuring ex addict. He was on meth for years and years, got clean and sober for many. Did everything he had to do and then some and loved life to the fullest. We have been together like i said for 8 years now and the first 6 were amazing... Then we got married... It feels like the second we said "I do" everything went crashing. We are now going on 1 1/2 years of marriage with a 6 month old son. He has been using again for this whole time. He completely is out of it. Says he only uses " a couple time a week" but... We have been threw this. I guess what I am trying to figure out is what am I supposed to do? Where do I go from here? I am 100% crazy over this man and he is the love of my life, but we have done this and I know how bad it gets. Except now we have a son (who he is amazing with at all times). He still provides for us, loves us, and is here for us, but in a very selfish way. And I knew he feels like complete **** that he is using again. He says the addict in him doesnt want to stop but he does, and he crys over the struggles of it. He doesnt really talk to me much any more and we fight like crazy cats. I just dont know where to go. Do I stay and fight with him again and have our son see this or do I leave and hope to god he wakes up on his own again. I am terrified about what is to come or all the "what ifs" and my heart is broken into peices whatching him do this again... Why would a person go back after so much drama? Jail, relationships, hospitals, probation, the whole shabam! Where do we go from here? Any comments at all would help greatly or advice.
This is the first time I have been on and I am looking for advice or stories. I am not even sure if this is the right spot for it or not. My story: I have been with the same man for 8 years now. Our first 6 years were totaly blissful and loving. My husband is an, what do I call it,... Reaccuring ex addict. He was on meth for years and years, got clean and sober for many. Did everything he had to do and then some and loved life to the fullest. We have been together like i said for 8 years now and the first 6 were amazing... Then we got married... It feels like the second we said "I do" everything went crashing. We are now going on 1 1/2 years of marriage with a 6 month old son. He has been using again for this whole time. He completely is out of it. Says he only uses " a couple time a week" but... We have been threw this. I guess what I am trying to figure out is what am I supposed to do? Where do I go from here? I am 100% crazy over this man and he is the love of my life, but we have done this and I know how bad it gets. Except now we have a son (who he is amazing with at all times). He still provides for us, loves us, and is here for us, but in a very selfish way. And I knew he feels like complete **** that he is using again. He says the addict in him doesnt want to stop but he does, and he crys over the struggles of it. He doesnt really talk to me much any more and we fight like crazy cats. I just dont know where to go. Do I stay and fight with him again and have our son see this or do I leave and hope to god he wakes up on his own again. I am terrified about what is to come or all the "what ifs" and my heart is broken into peices whatching him do this again... Why would a person go back after so much drama? Jail, relationships, hospitals, probation, the whole shabam! Where do we go from here? Any comments at all would help greatly or advice.
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Welcome to SR and sorry about the circumstances that brought you here. You will gain a lot of support from this site. I am an alcoholic and I brought on a lot of sadness to my family as well. Its a shame that we can't see how our alcoholism or drug addiction effects our loved ones. I guess our empathy goes out the door when we fall in love with the drug or the drink over everything and everyone else.
I am not trying to shoo you away from here, but want you to know that SR has a spot directly made to support our friends and family. Here's the link. Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I recommend you post this there. Maybe copy and paste it and start a new thread there. They will definitely relate and be able to help you through this. God bless!
I am not trying to shoo you away from here, but want you to know that SR has a spot directly made to support our friends and family. Here's the link. Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
I recommend you post this there. Maybe copy and paste it and start a new thread there. They will definitely relate and be able to help you through this. God bless!
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