Trinia21

My son who is out on bail is using heroin. I saw marks on his arms today. I posted before about revoking the bail but it looks as though I can't do that until his next court date in 6 weeks. In the meantime I keep suggesting rehab but he just denies his use. I am attending Al-Anon meetings. What else can I do? I am devestated by all this.

Freedom1990

I'm confused as to why you can't revoke bail since you put the money up for it?

Trinia21

I can revoke it but he needs to appear at the court to do it. Therefore, he would only go for his next court date and the revocation would take place without him knowing ahead of time,

laurie6781

Did you use a Bail Bondsman? Where in you are the 'signer' on the bail?

If you did, then the Bail Bondsman will revoke it and have the warrant issued.

It is always wise to use a Bail Bondsman I M H O, they have more power than I/We/Us when someone we have bonded out for whatever reason starts to 'screw up.'

Bails are revoked every day because Co-Signer has:

second thoughts
sees person using or drinking
sees person continue actions that got he/she in trouble to begin with
etc
etc
etc

or if you didn't use Bail Bondsman, go to the DA, or ADA that is prosecuting the case and report that person is using. The prosecuting office also can ask the court to 'revoke' bail, and a warrant will be issued.

J M H O

Love and hugs,

Kindeyes

Trinia
I'm glad to hear you are going to meetings. Put forth the effort in your own recovery that you would like to see him put forth in his. It has certainly helped me stay grounded and serene during some really tumultuous times. (And believe me, there have been some times that I haven't stayed so serene!)

Six weeks is an awful long time. Anything could happen during that time and I'm sure it has you worried.

Personally, I prayed a lot when my son was in his darkest hours. I became so desperate that I felt I had no choice but to turn him (and my life) over to my HP. That helped calm me.

gentle hugs