fighttowin

Just on way home and was informed that we have people at our house haven happy hour omg can it ever just go away UGH

Anna

So, don't go home.

Be selfish and do what you need to do to stay sober.

Dee74

Hi Fight

Have you discussed this with your partner again? I can't remember.

Parties are hard, especially when they're in our home...but you can stay strong and get through.

If worse comes to worse,, lock yourself away and stay on SR.

D

artsoul

I like Anna's suggestion! Is this something your husband is a part of? Why don't they go out somewhere?

Check your HALT meter, too. Hungry, angry, lonely, tired...... And do whatever you can to make sure those don't apply......

I know I'd be upset if people were boozing it up in my house. We'll be here for ya!:ghug3

viavai

or go to a meeting, or find a Starbucks and order something yummy while you read a good book, the newspaper, whatever! Or, if you don't have a good book, go to the bookstore and find one. You don't HAVE to go home, you know. Please talk openly with your significant other about how you feel about having people over for happy hour at your home, and ask that he take the party elsewhere for the time being. He/she needs to be--and I'm sure wants to be--a reliable source of support for you. Keep us posted!

fighttowin

Have a girl that needs a bath supper and homework can't stay away but going to lock self in house

Lilly03

What is the HALT meter?

artsoul

It's an acronym for:

Hungry
Angry
Lonely
Tired

artsoul

It just means that whenever we're hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, we're in a position where relapse is easier....

Lilly03

Thanks for that, it's very true.

fighttowin

Have a girl that needs a bath supper and homework can't stay away but going to lock self in house

Lilly03

I really like what Anna said, now is the time to be selfish. And you always have us here while you're locked up in the house.

fighttowin

made it. They took the party to someone elses house. My husband does not give me support he too has a problem and does not think I have a problem. That is why it is so hard. I cant afford treatment and he will not give me money for it. Feel alittle trapped

VeeTee

Great for making it! Not easy when people around us tell us we don't have a problem (or: just drink a little less). I'm grateful that this place and AA doesn't cost more than I can pay - I sure couldn't afford luxurious treatment with an ocean view...

Vee

Dee74

I'm glad you made it Fight. You should feel at least a little proud at that.

D

AmIReady

lol, I understood the HALT meter to mean, Halt! what ever you are doing if you are hurt, angry, loney, or tired.. lol... I always get myself into some kind of trouble if I continue to feel any of those emontions.. I can see the relapse as being easier as well.

Garp

I know what you mean. My husband keeps the fridge full of beer, and drinks everynight. It took me a year or so to get used to living without drinking, while having beer constantly within easy reach.