FreeingMyself

Ok so once again I let him get under my skin....the only difference once I said things I NEEDED to say, things I had hidden and kept to myself for fear of his anger. I stated very clearly that I would rather be DIRT poor, raising all6 kids on my own that EVER be called a b again by someone who supposedly loves, or be told how worthless I am, or be told I do nothing, or be put down in anyway. In a way I think I was telling myself that.......It felt really good to say those words, though they seem simple...but I needed to tell him that. Now, it probablly had 0 effect on him, but was 100% theraputic for me!

TatliGuzelim

I was in a relationship where I had no voice. I can relate to the feeling of accomplishment that comes with expressing your true feelings.

Kassie2

Keep reminding yourself that your feelings and thoughts are important too. It is important to be able to feel safe expressing yourself in a relationship. And whatever you do or what he thinks you do... expressing it in a negative way or demeaning manner is not necessary. Keep posting.

dancingnow

Yes, it's a wonderful feeling to get something that you need even if it is just saying what you need to say. I find even being detached enough from my AH to feel and know what I want or don't want is a great feeling. And although it is disappointing that saying what I need to say affects AH very little I'm still going to do it and glad you are doing it too Free.