Sober Anniversary.. HELP!
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Sober Anniversary.. HELP!
Today is my Wedding Anniversary and I have no idea how to celebrate it! We don't have much money so already we need a cheap romantic way to celebrate. Can't have a romantic at home dinner because my mother is here and the kids running all over.
I thought about a movie? I'd rather stay in for one but then what? I could get a bottle of sparkling cider/wine? (non alcoholic) Being in this newly sober fog I can't even think straight, and my head hurts already.
Some ideas? They are greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
I thought about a movie? I'd rather stay in for one but then what? I could get a bottle of sparkling cider/wine? (non alcoholic) Being in this newly sober fog I can't even think straight, and my head hurts already.
Some ideas? They are greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
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Originally Posted by eremc08 
I could get a bottle of sparkling cider/wine? (non alcoholic)
My suggestion...go out for dessert, or ice cream; if there is a coffee shop nearby, they usually have sweets. I think more important than what you do, is that you spend it together, thankful that you have each other.
Congrats on the occasion!
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The first anything after getting sober was uncomfortable for me.
Get her a nice card, a flower... Look her in the eye and tell her you are beginning a life life without alcohol... it's uncomfortable at first... you are in a fog, as you put it... renew your commitment to her and ask her to patient with while you learn to be all you can be... and then wish her a happy anniversary.
Weather permitting, take her for a walk... city street or country lane... It's about time together... and so be there, ya know?
Then go get recovered.
Get her a nice card, a flower... Look her in the eye and tell her you are beginning a life life without alcohol... it's uncomfortable at first... you are in a fog, as you put it... renew your commitment to her and ask her to patient with while you learn to be all you can be... and then wish her a happy anniversary.
Weather permitting, take her for a walk... city street or country lane... It's about time together... and so be there, ya know?
Then go get recovered.
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Hi Erem and congrats! I am sure it will be a great night because you will be present for it:-) Not sure where you are and what your weather is like, but is there somewhere scenic to go for a romantic walk? Or maybe some place that is special to you both?
Have fun and enjoy each other!
Have fun and enjoy each other!
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Originally Posted by Mark75
The first anything after getting sober was uncomfortable for me.
Get her a nice card, a flower... Look her in the eye and tell her you are beginning a life life without alcohol... it's uncomfortable at first... you are in a fog, as you put it... renew your commitment to her and ask her to patient with while you learn to be all you can be... and then wish her a happy anniversary.
Weather permitting, take her for a walk... city street or country lane... It's about time together... and so be there, ya know?
Then go get recovered.
Get her a nice card, a flower... Look her in the eye and tell her you are beginning a life life without alcohol... it's uncomfortable at first... you are in a fog, as you put it... renew your commitment to her and ask her to patient with while you learn to be all you can be... and then wish her a happy anniversary.
Weather permitting, take her for a walk... city street or country lane... It's about time together... and so be there, ya know?
Then go get recovered.
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I really like the cafe possible ice cream idea. Nothing expensive just some quiet alone time for your spouse to spend together with no kiddos and of course no alcohol
Congrats and enjoy. It is the small simple things like time together that matter most.
Congrats and enjoy. It is the small simple things like time together that matter most.
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Oh, and I hate flowers for occasions. I only like them when it's "just because" :P which he did last week for me. Grabbing some coffee and sharing a light dinner will be nice. It's gloomy and damp out but I like taking walks when it's like that, plus the scenery of the fall colored trees is my fav!
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As Mark expressed, the first <everything> after I got sober was difficult.
Idea #1: Is there a romantic park or beach where you live? How about a lover's lane? Pack a picnic (even if it's bologna sandwiches) and go there. You'll get a few hours away from Mom and the kids, even if it ain't an evening in Paris.
Idea #2: Go walk around the grocery store and get full on free samples. It won't be especially romantic, but I promise you'll laugh a lot.
Sometimes, the romance is not what's important. What's important is knowing you'll stand by each other no matter what.
Happy Anniversary! I celebrated my 19th Anniversary yesterday. I think the month of October is the best month to get married.
Idea #1: Is there a romantic park or beach where you live? How about a lover's lane? Pack a picnic (even if it's bologna sandwiches) and go there. You'll get a few hours away from Mom and the kids, even if it ain't an evening in Paris.
Idea #2: Go walk around the grocery store and get full on free samples. It won't be especially romantic, but I promise you'll laugh a lot.
Sometimes, the romance is not what's important. What's important is knowing you'll stand by each other no matter what.
Happy Anniversary! I celebrated my 19th Anniversary yesterday. I think the month of October is the best month to get married.
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Originally Posted by lildawg
As Mark expressed, the first <everything> after I got sober was difficult.
Idea #1: Is there a romantic park or beach where you live? How about a lover's lane? Pack a picnic (even if it's bologna sandwiches) and go there. You'll get a few hours away from Mom and the kids, even if it ain't an evening in Paris.
Idea #2: Go walk around the grocery store and get full on free samples. It won't be especially romantic, but I promise you'll laugh a lot.
Sometimes, the romance is not what's important. What's important is knowing you'll stand by each other no matter what.
Happy Anniversary! I celebrated my 19th Anniversary yesterday. I think the month of October is the best month to get married.
Idea #1: Is there a romantic park or beach where you live? How about a lover's lane? Pack a picnic (even if it's bologna sandwiches) and go there. You'll get a few hours away from Mom and the kids, even if it ain't an evening in Paris.
Idea #2: Go walk around the grocery store and get full on free samples. It won't be especially romantic, but I promise you'll laugh a lot.
Sometimes, the romance is not what's important. What's important is knowing you'll stand by each other no matter what.
Happy Anniversary! I celebrated my 19th Anniversary yesterday. I think the month of October is the best month to get married.
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Heartfelt talking in the Park or a walk holding hands is very romantic. I love connecting on an emotional and spiritual level.
Grab a blanket (or a few); a flashlight and go for a walk and find a spot to sit down and talk about meaningful stuff and hug and kiss. Congratulations!
Grab a blanket (or a few); a flashlight and go for a walk and find a spot to sit down and talk about meaningful stuff and hug and kiss. Congratulations!
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We had a nice quiet dinner out. It was pretty amusing lol.. Our server was one of those "yippie yay" and bubbly types.. oh man was she funny to watch. It was a little much for my taste but entertaining nonetheless. Thanks everyone.
Oh! - and the place had a bar, and not even one glance over towards it! My hubby didn't order a drink either.. he wanted me to be comfortable
Thanks everyone. Oh! - and the place had a bar, and not even one glance over towards it! My hubby didn't order a drink either.. he wanted me to be comfortable
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
I wouldn't recommend anything even resembling alcohol, as you have had recent slips...why risk triggering another.
My suggestion...go out for dessert, or ice cream; if there is a coffee shop nearby, they usually have sweets. I think more important than what you do, is that you spend it together, thankful that you have each other.
Congrats on the occasion!
My suggestion...go out for dessert, or ice cream; if there is a coffee shop nearby, they usually have sweets. I think more important than what you do, is that you spend it together, thankful that you have each other.
Congrats on the occasion!
I totally agree with this.....non alcoholic drinks are for non-alcoholics
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congrats eremc! it sounds like you just did something totally normal (and really healthy for your relationship) - without making it all about the drink or lack of drink. Joyous posts!
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