i go back to work today
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i go back to work today
Well hi folks,i go back to work today,didnt sleep a wink last night with everything going round in my head.
I dont know why im scared to go back but i spose it is because the last time i was there i was still with him and was looking forward to him following up on his promises.
Dont get me wrong i am glad this has happened because i now know that i have given all i can to this man and there is nothing left to give anymore but it still hurts.
How did you manage the going back to normality thing? (if that makes sense)
xx
I dont know why im scared to go back but i spose it is because the last time i was there i was still with him and was looking forward to him following up on his promises.
Dont get me wrong i am glad this has happened because i now know that i have given all i can to this man and there is nothing left to give anymore but it still hurts.
How did you manage the going back to normality thing? (if that makes sense)
xx
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You asked "How did you manage the going back to normality thing? (if that makes sense)". My answer is one step at a time.
JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes, and fit myself to it.
JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don't want to do - just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.
JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA
JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."
JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes, and fit myself to it.
JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will lean something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don't want to do - just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.
JUST FOR TODAY I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.
JUST FOR TODAY I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.
reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA
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Hi celticghirl--
Look, breaking up is hard to do no matter what the circumstances - take it one day at a time - plan activities for yourself, try to see positive friends - avoid the biggies that lead to trouble (HALT): Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired!
(((((hugs)))))
acdirito thanks for posting Just for Today - I keep that bookmark in a prominent place - it has helped me a million times!!!
Peace-
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Look, breaking up is hard to do no matter what the circumstances - take it one day at a time - plan activities for yourself, try to see positive friends - avoid the biggies that lead to trouble (HALT): Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired!
(((((hugs)))))
acdirito thanks for posting Just for Today - I keep that bookmark in a prominent place - it has helped me a million times!!!
Peace-
B
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