mooselips

Hi everyone,
I got a call yesterday from my youngest AS who, broke up with GF of 5 years. and moved to Florida in June. I wasn't home to receive the call, but he left a message to call him. I tried throughout the day, without any answer.

Well, he was picked up yesterday, charged with multiple charges, including possession, and intent to sell, blah...blah..blah...
I was not in the least surprised.
Maybe 15 years ago, I would have fell apart, not now.
I say Thank God, cause it was jail or death.

And, Thank you God for putting him right where you want him.



one small tiny problem though:

Here's my problem, Gary and I co-signed for the car he bought, altho we've been making many of the payments, anyway...the car is impounded, and the registration is in sons name.....and the car is in Florida.
We still owe, (rather SON owes) $4800...

any ideas?
Thank you...love you all......

mooselips

Not sure if I can get it out with the registration in my sons name.
Good grief

Impurrfect

(((Moose))) - sorry he's locked up, but glad he's safe.

I would call whoever has the car (the impound lot) and explain the situation. If they give you a hard time (they may want to hold onto it for the impound fees), I'd probably mention something about "okay, let me just talk to my lawyer about this". It may not do any good, but most places really don't want lawyers involved (even if you haven't talked to one, THEY don't know that) and you ARE co-signers.

BTW, it's after midnight here, so HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I know dealing with this stuff isn't exactly a very good b'day present, but make the most of your day, okay?

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Dee74

I'll second that mooselips - have a great birthday

Sadly, what I *don't* know about US law is...a lot
D

Spiritual Seeker

Oh the saga continues.
Jail does seem like the safest place. We get to the point we know & accept, even welcome this outcome.
If you co-signed, you must have something to prove your your stake in the car.

litehorse

Mooselips - we find comfort where we can in this situation - i also am finding comfort in the fact that my son is safe and sober in jail - and with time to think and hopefully allow God to work on him - my prayers are with you and your son - hope you are able to get the car without too much trouble -

dollydo

I would talk to an attorney. I live in Florida, they are tough to deal with.

Serenity_Seeker

Hi Moose,

Perhaps you could have a Florida attorney, take a power-of-attorney slip, to him for his signature ????? Then if you have a friend or family there, have themsell the vehicle for you???

Ann

I agree with you Moose, that God has him right where he needs to be right now, although I am sorry it came to this.

I'm not sure how the laws work there, but if the bank has a lien on the car (to back the loan), perhaps they can help you retrieve it to sell. You cosigned, so they can deal with you about this, but the loan is on a car that is impounded, so they should be able to help get it out.

Now let's make sure we have this straight...bail out the car, but not the son, okay?

And Happy Happy Birthday, my friend. Do something wonderful for yourself today and let Mr. Moose spoil you rotten.

Big Birthday Hugs and Lotsa Love

CatsPajamas

:day6 Happy birthday dear Moosie!

And ROAD TRIP !!!

let's all pile in the van and go to Florida to get the car! I think it's a fine idea. Ann can bring her famous cheesecake.... who would drive? I can be in charge of games along the way. I'm good at that. We will talk and laugh and cry all the way to FL. The only thing we WON'T do is worry about our A's knowing that their HP has them right where they need to be.

Mom hugs, my friend. As strong as you are, I know this hurts your heart.

Love you.

Callie

I agree with the above - you have the loan, you have proof he's in jail, they should let you have it out without a problem. Even a statement from your son should be proof enough. When xah's car was impounded, it was in my name. I had to take proof up and got it right out. I think it was pretty expensive - around $50 a day? Get out asap! I too would sell it. You could even do a Power of Attorney if need be.

MsPINKAcres

"Now let's make sure we have this straight...bail out the car, but not the son, okay? "

:rotfxko

that's some funny stuff right there - ya know!!!!!

Happy Birthday Moose!!!

Knowing that as healthy as you are you will be able to enjoy your birthday - knowing God has your son on his OWN path

Asking God to give you the guidance and wisdom you need to deal with the situation with the vehicle!!!

PINK HUGS & Happy Birthday wishes!!!

Rita

Kindeyes

Oh I particularly like CatsPJ's idea....and I wanna go!

Moose, I have had a couple of events similar to yours (but not several states away thank goodness). It's so very frustrating. I have no entanglements (financial) with my son anymore.....and I feel much better because I don't have to worry whether he's making payments on time or whatever.

I do feel for your predicament. A thought that hasn't been mentioned and an option that I have had to utilize before is (for me not for him)....make the payments on the loan to salvage your own credit and let what happens to the car happen. The thought of paying off $4800 of his debt stinks, but that would be a semi hands off approach. That way he has to deal with the car when he gets out.....including the impound fees.

Worse case scenario......you wind up paying for a car that he no longer has to protect your credit. Good news.....once it's paid off, you have no more financial entanglements.

It's a lousy option and I'm not suggesting it but just presenting one more possible option.

Happy Happy Happy Birthday!!!!!

gentle hugs

cece1960

Happy Birthday Moosie.

Sorry I have no answers regarding the car, but I hope that you can have a happy day regardless.

keepinon

:day6 Happy Birthday..a gift in its own way to know the kid is safe. God God as for the car you've given me the gift of never co signing anything!:rotfxko

Chino

Happy Birthday!

mooselips

Hi everyone, and thanks for the birthday wishes!

Lots of phone calls this morning.
To :
Jacksonville Police Dept.
Duvall County Jail
Jacksonville Forfeit dept.
Dective that towed the car
The towing company
That's just a few.

Mr. Moose is going up to BMV to get compy of registration to see if his name is on it.
IF NOT...we're sunk.

If it is, we can wait till the car is released, it may be on hold because it was a forfeiture due to the crime.

AND another small tiny problem:
Mr. Moose cannot go down there and get that car, I would have to.
(since he's been on his Epilepsy meds, he gets lost easily, and doesn't think too clear)
So...hmmm...let's add this up..

Flight down, leave car at nephews, and try to sell it.
Go to jail, have son sign power of attorney
Go to forfeiture office and get release
Go to impound lot, get car
Drive car to nephews 1 1/2 hour away.
Get a hotel
Rent a car
yikes.......
AND I asked what if we just give the car up.
We'd still have to pay $300 tow cost, and $27.00 a day
which would be around $1700 when all is said and done.


I could kick myself for TRYING to trust.
But we all do it, don't we?

Son called this morning, all contrite, and sorry, and crying.
He also took his GF's cat down there, and she is trying to get the cat back, but
we haven't any nember to call the house where my son was staying.
Also, my sons possessions...can kiss all that goodbye...

BUT, It's my BIRTHDAY! and it's a good day!
Love you all.......
(calgon take me away)

keepinon

Let me know if that Calgon things works..I want to get taken away too!:ghug3

mooselips

Who is making the plans for us all to go to Florida on the car rescue?

I am for sure taking my "toothy" bunny slippers.

Found out Mr. Moose is on the title, so we CAN go get the car.
If we don't, we have to pay the impound charges and tow payment, and they will auction the car.

Might as well, go get it and try to sell it.

(why couldn't he have moved to Virginia, or somewhere closer???? drat)

ROAD TRIP!

Kindeyes

Mooselips
My birthday was last week and my AS called and made an attempt to mess up my head and my day. I didn't let him (for too long anyway).

I hope you are able to put this aside for today......and enjoy your BIRTHDAY!!!! Wahhoooo!!

Enjoy YOUR day!!!

gentle hugs (again)