It Is There... Calling My Name..
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Join Date: Aug 2008
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It Is There... Calling My Name..
There is beer in the fridge... and the husband is at work... it would be so easy ... to pick it up and take a drink.
But, I am at the end of my day 6 and I truly don't want to mess that up. But, still calling my name.
Maybe I will go for a walk... or take the motorcycle out for a ride. God I hate this... I am sure it gets easier.
But, I am at the end of my day 6 and I truly don't want to mess that up. But, still calling my name.
Maybe I will go for a walk... or take the motorcycle out for a ride. God I hate this... I am sure it gets easier.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Hi Saliena
I'm assuming your husband hasn't quit.
That's a shame, and it makes it hard, but that's when we need to ramp up our support
We're always here 24/7 and there are of course face to face support groups too....
In the meantime...how about suggesting he get himself a beer fridge...keep it in the garage or something?
It's not a perfect solution but having it out of sight might help?
D
I'm assuming your husband hasn't quit.
That's a shame, and it makes it hard, but that's when we need to ramp up our support
We're always here 24/7 and there are of course face to face support groups too....
In the meantime...how about suggesting he get himself a beer fridge...keep it in the garage or something?
It's not a perfect solution but having it out of sight might help?
D
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Join Date: Apr 2008
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Does your husband know you are quitting? Can he find another place for his beer, or just not bring it in the house? Yeah, go for a ride or something to get you out of the house, but I'd have a talk with my husband when he gets home.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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It does get easier with time. Be strong and don't give in to the addiction. I can clearly remember the last time I drank and how bad I felt and I do'nt want to go back to that hell.
Get out of the house for a while if you can. Take a walk to burn off energy and frustration. You can do this.
Get out of the house for a while if you can. Take a walk to burn off energy and frustration. You can do this.
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Join Date: Jun 2010
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DON'T DO IT!!!
I know how you feel? I had a ritual beer dumping this morning and if I hadn't done that I don't think I would've made the morning without one. But I ate lunch and things got better.
I just had my dinner so I'm officially declaring day one complete.
Try eating something. That works for me. But I never could drink after meals.
I know how you feel? I had a ritual beer dumping this morning and if I hadn't done that I don't think I would've made the morning without one. But I ate lunch and things got better.
I just had my dinner so I'm officially declaring day one complete.
Try eating something. That works for me. But I never could drink after meals.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
My husband was kind enough
to get rid of all the alcohol
in the house while I was in
treatment for 28 days.
When I returned home there
was no temptation around as
I continued my sober journey.
Seriously, when i left rehab
I was still harboring much
resentments because my
family stepped in with an
intervention to get me help
I so desperately needed.
Resentments is a sure trigger
or warning sign that alcohol
would surely love to drown.
Instead of using alcohol that
wasnt available or in reach, I
went to meetings and meetings
and meetings. One foot in front
of the other.
I listened and absorbed all that
I could that would help me stay
on the recovery path a day at a
time.
Early recovery is very important
because it lays down the foundation
for a strong and sturdy program
to live by each day.
20 yrs later I am still living in the
sturdy walls of recovery that I
built early on.
As long as I live each day incorperating
the tools and knowledge I learned
thru out the yrs. then i have a reprieve
of not getting drunk today.
A good recovery program works
if you work it along with an
awesome network of recoverying
friends here in SR.
to get rid of all the alcohol
in the house while I was in
treatment for 28 days.
When I returned home there
was no temptation around as
I continued my sober journey.
Seriously, when i left rehab
I was still harboring much
resentments because my
family stepped in with an
intervention to get me help
I so desperately needed.
Resentments is a sure trigger
or warning sign that alcohol
would surely love to drown.
Instead of using alcohol that
wasnt available or in reach, I
went to meetings and meetings
and meetings. One foot in front
of the other.
I listened and absorbed all that
I could that would help me stay
on the recovery path a day at a
time.
Early recovery is very important
because it lays down the foundation
for a strong and sturdy program
to live by each day.
20 yrs later I am still living in the
sturdy walls of recovery that I
built early on.
As long as I live each day incorperating
the tools and knowledge I learned
thru out the yrs. then i have a reprieve
of not getting drunk today.
A good recovery program works
if you work it along with an
awesome network of recoverying
friends here in SR.
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Upstate NY, in the Adirondacks
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I think there is a beer in my fridge, too. I had my husband dump all the wine and beer, but I think he missed one. I was upset when I saw it, but haven't thought about it until now. Hasn't bothered me, but it does make it easier to relapse. Just go out, open, drink. I won't do it, but now it is bugging me. Damn!! I am going to go throw it out.
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: dayton, oh
Posts: 487
You used two good tools, You filled your stomache with food and got out of the house and did something. I would call it a great day.
In the beginnning when I was bored and craving all i needed was to get in the car and go someplace with a lot of people. First I would delight in being out at night and then enjoy the sights and sounds of the world after five.
SH
In the beginnning when I was bored and craving all i needed was to get in the car and go someplace with a lot of people. First I would delight in being out at night and then enjoy the sights and sounds of the world after five.
SH
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: los angeles, ca
Posts: 1,223
Hey Saliena, I live with Xfiance and there is always tons of wine around the house. He is not an alcoholic. Somehow I have 23 days without it being too much of problem. The way I see it, is alcohol can be attained anytime anyplace here in LA. Might as well start fighting the addiction at home. Helps me when I go to store or anywhere. I guess having it at home desensitizes it for me.
Now I know that doesn't and wouldn't work for everyone, but temptation is always around.
Good Luck to you and Congrats on not drinking tonight and 6 days sober!!!
Now I know that doesn't and wouldn't work for everyone, but temptation is always around.
Good Luck to you and Congrats on not drinking tonight and 6 days sober!!!
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Toronto, ON
Posts: 1,591
Saliena, I only live with me, myself and I, so I don't have the challenge of having beer in the fridge. I don't entertain either, and if I did, I would probably not include it - MAYBE I would have people bring their own and have someone manage it for me. But I don't see that in the near future, so I live in a no-alcohol zone, and that works for me.
I, too, am assuming the alcohol is in your house because your husband drinks and this was either his beer or leftovers after you quit. If he is willing to go without, it would be helpful. I also think the separate beer fridge sounds like a good idea, if that's possible. I wish I could think of another idea to add to the ones you have already used as solutions.
Good for you for making it through another day.
I, too, am assuming the alcohol is in your house because your husband drinks and this was either his beer or leftovers after you quit. If he is willing to go without, it would be helpful. I also think the separate beer fridge sounds like a good idea, if that's possible. I wish I could think of another idea to add to the ones you have already used as solutions.
Good for you for making it through another day.
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Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: ATL
Posts: 835
Great job making it through another day! Just think, after tomorrow it'll be a whole week!
I'm lucky in that my fiancee doesn't really keep alcohol in the house. She drinks when she goes out with her friends or at her tennis matches, but it's not over-the-top and she doesn't drink at home. But one night about a month ago, I came home after a really and day at work and told her I hadn't wanted a drink so badly since my last one in March. I opened the fridge to grab a Coke, and what do you know? There were 2 beers right up front, staring me in the face, left over from tennis earlier that day. I shut the fridge and turned around, only to see a bottle of nice red wine on the counter, her birthday gift from a friend. Thought I was going to lose it. But I put the beers in the bottom drawer of the fridge and the wine behind some things in a cabinet, hidden out of plain sight. That helped me, just putting it somewhere I wouldn't see them.
I find it funny that I really don't want alcohol in the house, because I work in a restaurant and serve alcohol all the time. Even went to see some friends tonight at a restaurant and they were all lit up like Christmas trees, and I just sipped my Coke. Didn't bother me. But I guess my home is my comfort zone, and that's why it bothers me to have it here but not to be around it elsewhere.
Keep it up, and thanks for joining us here!
I'm lucky in that my fiancee doesn't really keep alcohol in the house. She drinks when she goes out with her friends or at her tennis matches, but it's not over-the-top and she doesn't drink at home. But one night about a month ago, I came home after a really and day at work and told her I hadn't wanted a drink so badly since my last one in March. I opened the fridge to grab a Coke, and what do you know? There were 2 beers right up front, staring me in the face, left over from tennis earlier that day. I shut the fridge and turned around, only to see a bottle of nice red wine on the counter, her birthday gift from a friend. Thought I was going to lose it. But I put the beers in the bottom drawer of the fridge and the wine behind some things in a cabinet, hidden out of plain sight. That helped me, just putting it somewhere I wouldn't see them.
I find it funny that I really don't want alcohol in the house, because I work in a restaurant and serve alcohol all the time. Even went to see some friends tonight at a restaurant and they were all lit up like Christmas trees, and I just sipped my Coke. Didn't bother me. But I guess my home is my comfort zone, and that's why it bothers me to have it here but not to be around it elsewhere.
Keep it up, and thanks for joining us here!
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Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: UK
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Well, I have just poured the last of my 'emergency stash' of cans down the drain and removed all evidence of drink from the house.
All too familiar Day 1 feelings already this morning but I'm determined to remain positive.
All too familiar Day 1 feelings already this morning but I'm determined to remain positive.
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