Should I move in with my father?
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Should I move in with my father?
I know no one can make the decision for me or anything I’m just confused and would like some kind of input. I’ve been offered to move in with him because my mom is an alcoholic and has no interest in getting better. I can’t even express my feelings towards her problem without getting screamed at and put down.
Right now I’m miserable and fairly sure I could be diagnosed with depression if I were to see a psychiatrist, or I could have been for several years now. My parents divorced a few years ago and I chose to stay with my mom only because I didn’t want to leave the state and my father did have his own problems at the time.
He’s doing a lot better and has remarried. He wants me to move in so that I’ll finally be around a normal family and household but for some reason I’m reluctant to do so. I love my mother but I’m tired of watching her drink all day and never do anything. More than anything though I’m tired of feeling down all the time. I think I’m really just worried her and her family will hate me for doing so, since she’s lied so much to them about what really went on in the house and during their divorce. I can’t even see him when he comes into town without her yelling and saying I’ve stabbed her in the back.
Well any advice would be nice to receive.
Right now I’m miserable and fairly sure I could be diagnosed with depression if I were to see a psychiatrist, or I could have been for several years now. My parents divorced a few years ago and I chose to stay with my mom only because I didn’t want to leave the state and my father did have his own problems at the time.
He’s doing a lot better and has remarried. He wants me to move in so that I’ll finally be around a normal family and household but for some reason I’m reluctant to do so. I love my mother but I’m tired of watching her drink all day and never do anything. More than anything though I’m tired of feeling down all the time. I think I’m really just worried her and her family will hate me for doing so, since she’s lied so much to them about what really went on in the house and during their divorce. I can’t even see him when he comes into town without her yelling and saying I’ve stabbed her in the back.
Well any advice would be nice to receive.
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If you're old enough to have a say in where you live, I think you should live where you want to. I think you'd probably benefit from Al-Anon or Alateen (again, depending on your age) to get free of the effects of your mom's drinking, whatever you decide.
Maybe you could have a visit to your dad's house to see what it would be like to live there before you make a definite decision?
Maybe you could have a visit to your dad's house to see what it would be like to live there before you make a definite decision?
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Just dropped by to say I LOVE thread titles like this one!
"What should I do?"
And Barb Dwyer can NOT resist....
coming in to at least see what's going on.
You can take the codie out of the house....ha!
I agree with Lexie's 'if you're old enough to live alone" answer.
One parent shouldn't preclude your relationship with the other.
Your choices should be just that -yours.
"What should I do?"
And Barb Dwyer can NOT resist....
coming in to at least see what's going on.
You can take the codie out of the house....ha!
I agree with Lexie's 'if you're old enough to live alone" answer.
One parent shouldn't preclude your relationship with the other.
Your choices should be just that -yours.
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