barb dwyer

SOmetimes, I go from here
over to F&F NA ...

and there'll always be a post/thread
from a new mother/wife/daughter/son/husband

who is reaching out for the first time.

They're embarassed by their situation
they're afraid, they're feeling most awkward...

Then y'all come swooping in
like these angelic magpies

welcoming and relating your own experience.

Sometimes I come on and just read and watch the energy of the forum work.

Way to go , us! LOL

LexieCat

Yeah, Yay us!!

Still Waters

It's lovely. Though I do get fatigued with the never ending circle of pain, I admit.

SheCanRun

I hear you Still Waters... I'm still living in that circle and somedays are unbearable. However thank god for this forum and Al Anon where I have role models and people who have walked though the fire and are not only surviving but thriving.

Somedays it's the only hope I have.

barb dwyer

I particularly enjoy reading in someone's first post how they can't go to aa,
or they can't go to Alanon...

but they hang out here for a bit -
and they wee the welcome,
feel there's no judgement...

and they muster the courage to get that support in 3-D.

because like it or not -
we dwell in another world.
And we need the support there as much if no more
than just in here.

While the simple truth is
that some groups are better than others
it's in the action... that the healing can begin.

And reading that ... just gets TO me every now and then.

Still Waters

If I had a car, I'd go to f2f meetings. But, I don't.

barb dwyer

You'd be amazed the people that'd come by and give ya a ride.

When I first got sober -
I had a car.
i just had no business trying to drive it.
Shakes,, nausea, blurred vision...

and I was sick for over a week before I could even TRY driving.

But I had a ride - to and from
every night of the week.

I've given at least a hundred rides in my little dinky four years.

All we have to do is ask, hon.

I know you're in a hard place right now.
I even know the place.

I hope you don't read this as me being flip, cuz I'm not...

... all it takes is a phonecall.

Still Waters

I don't know who to call Barb. I've not gone to a f2f meeting here since I got stranded, and hadn't live here in years before that.

Far as I can tell, there is one meeting a day in this area, at different places each day of the week. I keep trying to get to one with a borrowed car, but haven't yet made it.

Anyway, in time.

Learn2Live

I remember my first week of meetings I was so sick, shaking, hadn't showered in at least two weeks. EVERYTHING in my life was a frickin' disaster. And I showed up at a meeting, just dazed and confused and crying. Musta' stunk to high heaven. I remember being TERRIFIED of white vans driving to my Al-Anon meetings because my supposed fiance had just told me he had had sex with some random girl from a bar in the back of her white minivan. It was the most bizarre thing and I remember sharing that that first week and we all had a good laugh about it. It was good to be surrounded by those people during that horrible time of my life.

Not sure if this post was off-topic, but your thread made me remember that. Weird how those old memories just come back like that.

fourmaggie

I always learn something from every new real life story...and I take that knowledge I learn and move forward with it...or pass it along to others...and share...that is what I love about this group and all of my friends...its that simple..we learn and we share and we GROW LIKE WEEDS!!

and today I am that beautiful yellow rose in my back garden with a smile on my face and enjoying the days sunshine...thanks everyone from the bottom of my heart!

coyote21

We have a wonderful young woman in our group now for around 3 years. After our 11a-12noon Saturday meeting, by far our largest with around 20 each Sat, we all usually go to lunch and LMC and I usually attend.

Any who, this young woman used to watress at one of our usual spots. For a couple of years she said this rowdy, loud, laughing at the drop of a hat, bunch of miss fits used to come into her restaurant, all colors, all ages, dressed all kinds of ways. She couldn't for the life of her figure out "our" story.

Till one day her boyfriends alcoholism had brought her to her knees, and she walked into our Saturday meeting, looked around the room, and THERE WE ALL WERE!

She actually submitted her story to "The Forum", and it was printed a while back.

Funny huh! Good stuff.

Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote

LexieCat

Man! Ya know, it's enough to make one believe in miracles.

coyote21

We've got one gal, 2 cars, lives walking distance from the meeting, and gets rides cause she likes the company, plus I think she likes the "feel good" part of people coming to get her.

A few years, ago, LMC's first summer vacation down at mom's/gmaw's, when visitation was over the mom, in her infinite wisdom, decided to just keep LMC. Enrolled her in school, everything.

Any way, I had to go down there and bust her out of school to bring her home. I had an old car that wouldn't make the trip, and this lady offered me her car for the trip. I'd only been going to the meeting for about a year.

Ended up, two guys both took off work on a Thursday, drove me down there to hook up with the Sheriff's dept to go serve a "writ of attachment" to the school, and bring her home. Man, very cool guys.

If you can figure out a way to ask 'em, they'll do it, I got 'sperience with that.

Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote

HealingWillCome

Love that story!

coffeedrinker

what a great story!

i've said it before, and i'll say it many more times i'm sure, but:

this forum was my lifeline.

this forum helped me more than any other single thing i did.

this forum is filled with so many beautiful, wise, caring people.

this forum changed my life.

(christine)