TOPIC: Safety Net To Catch You When You Fall
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
TOPIC: Safety Net To Catch You When You Fall
Hi Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
By the grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I haven't found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that you I am truely grateful.
Did you have a safety net with
your parents as a child to catch
you when you made mistakes?
Parents or love ones to guide
you or give you right advice and
directions while you were growing
up?
These are the ones you place
ur trust in and give you that
unconditional love no matter
what you did. Whether right
or wrong.
For me, I had one parent that
I admired and trusted in the
most. My dad. The parent that
preached but out of 4 kids, I
was the one who listened the
hardest and trust him the mostest.
The other parent, my mother,
took away my childhood. Abused
me, placed fear in me, destroyed
my love and admiration for her.
Scorned by the belt, hand, objects
severed a mother daughter relation-
ship.
Hatred, resentments seeped deep
within as I tried to drown them
over the yrs. with alcohol.
Years of raising my own 2 children,
I prayed and swore I would never
hurt or abuse mine like I was.
With guidance and help from Above,
I raised His 2 little ones to the best
of my ability and they emerged as
2 loving caring awesome little adults.
I think my safety net for them was
strong enough to catch them when
mistakes were made. They both
had parents and loved ones to
guide them as well as their Faith
to protect them.
My net as a child was torn but there
were some strong threads of my dad
that kept me holding on with dear
life.
His strings, lessons, were made of
a strong Faith, values, love and
forgiveness which I have carried
with me thru to today.
Over the yrs. I slipped hitting the
floor because of the weak threads
of the net caused by my mom, but
the strong threads were the ones
that have made me for what I am
today.
Those strong threads of the safety
net kept me alive and gave me hope
to continue on with life as it continues
to reward me with new lessons each
day.
By the grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I haven't found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that you I am truely grateful.
Did you have a safety net with
your parents as a child to catch
you when you made mistakes?
Parents or love ones to guide
you or give you right advice and
directions while you were growing
up?
These are the ones you place
ur trust in and give you that
unconditional love no matter
what you did. Whether right
or wrong.
For me, I had one parent that
I admired and trusted in the
most. My dad. The parent that
preached but out of 4 kids, I
was the one who listened the
hardest and trust him the mostest.
The other parent, my mother,
took away my childhood. Abused
me, placed fear in me, destroyed
my love and admiration for her.
Scorned by the belt, hand, objects
severed a mother daughter relation-
ship.
Hatred, resentments seeped deep
within as I tried to drown them
over the yrs. with alcohol.
Years of raising my own 2 children,
I prayed and swore I would never
hurt or abuse mine like I was.
With guidance and help from Above,
I raised His 2 little ones to the best
of my ability and they emerged as
2 loving caring awesome little adults.
I think my safety net for them was
strong enough to catch them when
mistakes were made. They both
had parents and loved ones to
guide them as well as their Faith
to protect them.
My net as a child was torn but there
were some strong threads of my dad
that kept me holding on with dear
life.
His strings, lessons, were made of
a strong Faith, values, love and
forgiveness which I have carried
with me thru to today.
Over the yrs. I slipped hitting the
floor because of the weak threads
of the net caused by my mom, but
the strong threads were the ones
that have made me for what I am
today.
Those strong threads of the safety
net kept me alive and gave me hope
to continue on with life as it continues
to reward me with new lessons each
day.
Groovy Dancer
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Posts: 4,751
I am sorry you went through that with your mother Sharon. No child should have to. I am glad you had your father there for you. I am glad you gave your kids a safety net.
My parents were there for me and provided me a safety net for mistakes I made.
My parents were there for me and provided me a safety net for mistakes I made.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
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Thanks guys for sharing.
I'm glad I at least had one
awesome parent there for
me when I was young to
help me with my sanity.
Today it still saddens me
to think, a mom whom I
admired because of her
outside style and beauty
could be so sick and ugly
inside towards me.
I know it is because
of her own child abuse
she sustained as a child
from her own mom that
she aimed her angry feelings
towards me.
You often hear about that
chain that is carried from
one family to another until
it is broken.
I know my dad knew my
mom was sick....but he
was either in the dark
or denial as to the extent
of the abuse i went thru.
I wasnt allowed to say
anything to him but he
saw the bruises and blood.
A few months ago when
I visited my dad after a
long time of separation,
I told him of the abuse
and he said it sadden him
that I called what I went
thru as a child abuse.
It is sad.
Anyway.....
That time was back in
the 50's 60's and 70's
when i finally left home.
I think about kids in todays
time and age wondering
if they go thru abuse like
I did.
Wonder if parents are still
sick with drugs and alcohol
raising families.
The answer is clear as day
as i read shares on here
from others that are dealing
with their own demons
after childhood experiences.
For every child that is hurt
today I often wish I could
take away all their pain just
so they never have to experience
what I did as a child till 18 yrs
old.
I hope parents today are
made of strong nets to
protect their kids.
We need them for a stronger
generation in years to come.
I'm glad I at least had one
awesome parent there for
me when I was young to
help me with my sanity.
Today it still saddens me
to think, a mom whom I
admired because of her
outside style and beauty
could be so sick and ugly
inside towards me.
I know it is because
of her own child abuse
she sustained as a child
from her own mom that
she aimed her angry feelings
towards me.
You often hear about that
chain that is carried from
one family to another until
it is broken.
I know my dad knew my
mom was sick....but he
was either in the dark
or denial as to the extent
of the abuse i went thru.
I wasnt allowed to say
anything to him but he
saw the bruises and blood.
A few months ago when
I visited my dad after a
long time of separation,
I told him of the abuse
and he said it sadden him
that I called what I went
thru as a child abuse.
It is sad.
Anyway.....
That time was back in
the 50's 60's and 70's
when i finally left home.
I think about kids in todays
time and age wondering
if they go thru abuse like
I did.
Wonder if parents are still
sick with drugs and alcohol
raising families.
The answer is clear as day
as i read shares on here
from others that are dealing
with their own demons
after childhood experiences.
For every child that is hurt
today I often wish I could
take away all their pain just
so they never have to experience
what I did as a child till 18 yrs
old.
I hope parents today are
made of strong nets to
protect their kids.
We need them for a stronger
generation in years to come.
You shouldn't have had to go through that.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Thank you Ghostly....
I always say to myself that
no child should ever be abused.
Physically, verbally, emotionally,
sexually. They are all bad.
As parents who are under the
enfluence of drugs or alcohol,
it alters your behavior and ability
to think and act clearly.
For my mom who used
perscription meds and alcohol
together at times, it made her
own behavior extremely explosive.
It was amazing how one day
she could be sick as a dog, or
cruel as a monster and turn
around and be so forgiving,
forgetful and a joy to admire.
With my own kids, i was
always worried what others
thought, so i controlled every-
thing and everyone.
Because i was so ridgid in
my ways i drank for more
control which eventually
destoyed me.
Thank God my family (husband)
stepped in to get me help while
my 2 kids were 4 and 6. I can
only imagine what life would
have been like if still drinking.
That's behind me now and today
Im grateful that the abuse i went
thru never entered my little family.
I always say to myself that
no child should ever be abused.
Physically, verbally, emotionally,
sexually. They are all bad.
As parents who are under the
enfluence of drugs or alcohol,
it alters your behavior and ability
to think and act clearly.
For my mom who used
perscription meds and alcohol
together at times, it made her
own behavior extremely explosive.
It was amazing how one day
she could be sick as a dog, or
cruel as a monster and turn
around and be so forgiving,
forgetful and a joy to admire.
With my own kids, i was
always worried what others
thought, so i controlled every-
thing and everyone.
Because i was so ridgid in
my ways i drank for more
control which eventually
destoyed me.
Thank God my family (husband)
stepped in to get me help while
my 2 kids were 4 and 6. I can
only imagine what life would
have been like if still drinking.
That's behind me now and today
Im grateful that the abuse i went
thru never entered my little family.
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