Anyone believe everything happens for a reason??
Grateful Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: MI
Posts: 1,080
Anyone believe everything happens for a reason??
For those of you who don't already know this, my sister was supposed to get married tomorrow. I've made it through the parties and events without drinking and my last hurdle was going to be the wedding. Last night was the rehearsal dinner, and after it was over the fiancee tells her he doesn't want to marry her. At this point the wedding is 30 hours away. So sister calls me at 12:30 at night on the side of the road crying and I have to go get her. Rewind to the dinner. Everyone was drinking. There was EVERYTHING you couldve wanted. When we left my husband came home and had a few more drinks while I worked on my maid of honor speech. I never ever believed in everything happening for a reason, but I sure do now. If I had been drinking, I wouldnt have been able to help my sister. Or I wouldve risked our lives when I went to get her. I truly believe in a higher power and am so thankful that I stopped drinking when I did. These kinds of stories I believe are inspirational, and that is why I wanted to share. Thanks for listening. Now I have to go call 215 guests to tell them theres no wedding, get rid of her wedding dress so she doesnt have to see it, and cancel EVERYTHING while trying to mend her shattered heart.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: New England
Posts: 5,285
Omg Julez! I am so sorry for your sister! Thank God you are sober to help her! Can weform a posse and go beat the crap out of the fiance? Its one thing to call off a wedding but at the 11th hour??? *******!
I do think things happen for a reason...its something I work hard at reminding myself of when crap happens!
Hugs to you and your sister!
I do think things happen for a reason...its something I work hard at reminding myself of when crap happens!
Hugs to you and your sister!
Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 426
there is still time.....it life is like sitcoms....the wedding may still happen. Kidding aside I am sorry for your sisters situation but I am happy for you. I agree. Being sober at the right time is awesome. I keep driving around saying to myself, so where are all the DWI stop checks? I would love to go through one right now and be asked if I was drinking. I can say yes I was, 16 days ago.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,413
I do believe that things happen for a reason, always have.
Sorry to hear about the situation, but happy you were there for your sister and will be able to continue to be there for her. Be VERY proud of yourself for that.
Take care...
Sorry to hear about the situation, but happy you were there for your sister and will be able to continue to be there for her. Be VERY proud of yourself for that.
Take care...
Member
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Dallas, Tx
Posts: 2,405
Sorry about your sister and good for you for being there and being sober! I do think things happen for a reason and so I think it's better to be 'left at the altar' than have to go through a bad marriage and wind up divorced.
dopeless hope fiend
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Here. Now.
Posts: 1,021
Thanks for sharing. Isn't it great to be able to be present for people today?
As far as everything happening for a reason, hell yes i believe that, and the reason is simply cause. I believe in cause and effect, karma. All that happens is the cause of all that happens...
As far as everything happening for a reason, hell yes i believe that, and the reason is simply cause. I believe in cause and effect, karma. All that happens is the cause of all that happens...
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: the high desert
Posts: 887
Julez, I am so sorry to hear this. I know how much you have been putting into this wedding! I am so glad you were sober so you could go get her. Yes, things definitely happen for a reason.
Sorry about the phone calls you have to make...you are a great sister! Keep up your hard work.
Sorry about the phone calls you have to make...you are a great sister! Keep up your hard work.
Member
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Kansas
Posts: 63
Originally Posted by Jabbadabutt 
there is still time.....it life is like sitcoms....the wedding may still happen. Kidding aside I am sorry for your sisters situation but I am happy for you. I agree. Being sober at the right time is awesome. I keep driving around saying to myself, so where are all the DWI stop checks? I would love to go through one right now and be asked if I was drinking. I can say yes I was, 16 days ago.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
Posts: 20,458
Originally Posted by coming_clean
some things happen for a reason....
some don't...
I like to believe that not drinking so you could help your sister out happened for a reason.
some don't...
I like to believe that not drinking so you could help your sister out happened for a reason.
send the Flock-wad the bill for the reception and donate the food to the local soup kitchen....I'm sure your sister will come to realize in time how she narrowly escaped marrying a worthless jerk...(i hope she had trip insurance for the honeymoon)
for your sister and Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Lowell
Posts: 345
I am one that believes that some things do happen for a reason. Good for you that you were able to be sober for your sister when she needed you the most.
Maybe there is also a reason for what happened with the wedding being called off by the fiance. If he was so earger to quit now, what kind of a marriage would she had have with him in the future.
God works is mysterious ways.
Harry
Maybe there is also a reason for what happened with the wedding being called off by the fiance. If he was so earger to quit now, what kind of a marriage would she had have with him in the future.
God works is mysterious ways.
Harry
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Between Serenity and Despair
Posts: 522
Isn't it wonderful when you need to be sober and you are? It makes you feel wonderful, and you are wonderful for keeping your quit.
Quick thought: If the wedding dress can't be returned for a refund, hold onto it until your sis is ready to decide what to do with it. She'll have to figure out how to return all the gifts to the guests anyway. I know you feel for her and want to protect her, but doing stuff like this for yourself is a good lesson in life. And, she may not agree with how you've disposed of things, which could cause resentment.
And, like Jabba said, the wedding may still take place. You said everyone was drinking. As you and I both know, alcohol can fuel a lot of weird events. Then, a few hours later, everything's hunky-dory again.
Quick thought: If the wedding dress can't be returned for a refund, hold onto it until your sis is ready to decide what to do with it. She'll have to figure out how to return all the gifts to the guests anyway. I know you feel for her and want to protect her, but doing stuff like this for yourself is a good lesson in life. And, she may not agree with how you've disposed of things, which could cause resentment.
And, like Jabba said, the wedding may still take place. You said everyone was drinking. As you and I both know, alcohol can fuel a lot of weird events. Then, a few hours later, everything's hunky-dory again.
Member
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Pasadena, CA
Posts: 1,539
Anyone believe everything happens for a reason??
EVERY SINGLE TIME!
I just most often don't see it at that moment.......
WHY?
because I am stubborn, or defiant, or think I know a better way, or don't have an open mind, or my ego is in the way, or I won't take advice/direction, or my mind tells me continuous lies...
The list can be increased ad naseum.....
SO, I have found this helpful:
God, take me where you want me to go,
help me meet who you want me to meet,
tell me what you want me to say,
AND KEEP ME OUT OF YOUR WAY!
EVERY SINGLE TIME!
I just most often don't see it at that moment.......
WHY?
because I am stubborn, or defiant, or think I know a better way, or don't have an open mind, or my ego is in the way, or I won't take advice/direction, or my mind tells me continuous lies...
The list can be increased ad naseum.....
SO, I have found this helpful:
God, take me where you want me to go,
help me meet who you want me to meet,
tell me what you want me to say,
AND KEEP ME OUT OF YOUR WAY!
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
