Teenie

He sent me an e-mail earlier tonight around 10:30pm telling me that he was going to take me to a Twins game. I responded by saying that past tense and broken lies/promises really work for him. And that I'm glad I'm working my program and getting help for my codependency issues and getting better doing so. That I can't keep him from ruining his life but i sure as hell can keep him from ruining mine and that i won't have anything to do w/ his business anymore. That his childlike e-mails from him and his behavior make him very transparent. That i was ready to support him in his path to recovery. Should i have even responded?

Ann

If you have made it clear that all bets are off (so to speak), then I would ignore any further attempts by him to communicate to you, because it would mean he's not listening or he feels your words are not validated by your actions.

I find if I say something once and say it clearly...that is communication.

If I repeat myself to try to make myself heard...that is trying to control others and is codependency.

A dear old timer here taught me that. Wise lady was JT.

Hugs

suki44883

Should i have even responded?

It depends on whether or not you are done. Are you done?

coffeedrinker

good to hear from you Teenie!

i would agree that if you are truly finished, then you simply do not respond. this is HARD but when you reply you just open the crack in that door a little bit wider.

i bet your heart started racing. yep. don't need that, do ya?

peace, & i'll call you this weekend!