A Basic Shower
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: California
Posts: 13
A Basic Shower
This is very embarrassing to admit but since my AL problem has gotten worse and me and and my BF split, I haven't been taking care of myself. I go 3,4,5 days without bothering to shower. The night before i'll set my alarm a little earlier and tell myself "You need to get up and shower, blow dry your hair, before work tomorrow." This week, I'm so tired from drinking the night before, I just keep hitting snooze until i have just a few minutes to throw on some close and put my hair in a ponytail before i go to work. Ive been wearing my hair up all this last week. Can anyone relate to this? Or am I just disgusting?
Groovy Dancer
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: The States
Posts: 4,751
A lot (if not all) of the people on SR can relate to not taking care of ourselves while we were drinking / using or both.
Clearly, the issue is not you missing showers. It is not you sleeping in. It is not your lack of hygiene. It is not you being tired.
It is your DRINKING! A lot will not get better till you address that.
Clearly, the issue is not you missing showers. It is not you sleeping in. It is not your lack of hygiene. It is not you being tired.
It is your DRINKING! A lot will not get better till you address that.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,229
Drinking never got in the way
of my personal needs then nor
20 yrs sober now.
I was raised in a way that I
always worried about what
others thought or would
think of me.
Today of course im still
worried about that, but
a constant reminder from
within that it really doesnt
matter what anyone thinks,
just as long as Im happy
with me.
In rehab i would show up
in group with every hair in
place and all made up. Lip
stick and all.
As i was learning about masks
that we wear when drinking,
i had to learn to lose the mask
and be true to myself.
I went one day without and felt
uncomfortable....they laughed
at me and knew exactly where
i was coming from....lol
Today i still like to look nice
but not a ridget as I use to
be.
Today its all about progress
and not too much about
perfection.
of my personal needs then nor
20 yrs sober now.
I was raised in a way that I
always worried about what
others thought or would
think of me.
Today of course im still
worried about that, but
a constant reminder from
within that it really doesnt
matter what anyone thinks,
just as long as Im happy
with me.
In rehab i would show up
in group with every hair in
place and all made up. Lip
stick and all.
As i was learning about masks
that we wear when drinking,
i had to learn to lose the mask
and be true to myself.
I went one day without and felt
uncomfortable....they laughed
at me and knew exactly where
i was coming from....lol
Today i still like to look nice
but not a ridget as I use to
be.
Today its all about progress
and not too much about
perfection.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: ft. lauderdale florida
Posts: 275
J, The whale in your avatar is smiling from his bath maybe you will too! Sometimes when I feel sad I force to myself to take a shower even if I do nothing but stand there under the water. Maybe you could try that. Turn on water, undress, step in shower, let the water wash over you, get out, dry off, get dressed. I bet you will feel 100 times better. If you can't do it in the morning, tonight after work try it and then go lay down. If you feel it still takes too much effort don't worry about it. I'm sure eventually you will want to. hugs
Member
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: NJ
Posts: 20,458
When my drinking got to the heaviest part, if i wasn't going to work I never bothered to shower, it seemed like too much effort.....it fueled my depressed state which fueled more drinking, that vicious cycle...I felt disgusting and didn't even care...i cleaned the catbox and fed the animals and laid in my bed like a dying slug...I didn't care that I was killing myself, i kept thinking I was mourning the loss of a long-slow-dying relationship.
Something in my head made me stop the night I searched and found SR website...it was the wealth of support, exchanged information that gave me the desire to change.
But you have to want to stop and you have to educate yourself about what you need to do to stop. (JMHO)
Something in my head made me stop the night I searched and found SR website...it was the wealth of support, exchanged information that gave me the desire to change.
But you have to want to stop and you have to educate yourself about what you need to do to stop. (JMHO)
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,313
I can definitely relate too Jewels.
Sorry but it's not clear to me whether you're drinking or simply depressed, or both...I've been there on both counts.
Whatever the cause, I hope you'll seek some help if this goes on.
...and have that shower
Taking care of ourselves is always important, when we're not feeling great it's really important.
D
Sorry but it's not clear to me whether you're drinking or simply depressed, or both...I've been there on both counts.
Whatever the cause, I hope you'll seek some help if this goes on.
...and have that shower
Taking care of ourselves is always important, when we're not feeling great it's really important.
D
Member
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 649
Jewels - I can relate to not wanting to take a shower when I'm totally hung over; however, if I have to go to work I do make myself presentable.
You did not say whether you want to quit drinking or not. The shower issue is at the bottom of the totem pole compared to the alcoholism. Give up the booze then you'll want to take a shower and you'll be a much happier person. Perhaps you and your BF would get back together.... I'm just guessing that the breakup had to do with drinking. (it usually does.....)
You did not say whether you want to quit drinking or not. The shower issue is at the bottom of the totem pole compared to the alcoholism. Give up the booze then you'll want to take a shower and you'll be a much happier person. Perhaps you and your BF would get back together.... I'm just guessing that the breakup had to do with drinking. (it usually does.....)
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,746
Been there, done that. I didn't care enough about myself to care for myself. If you're still drinking, get help to stop. And if you still feel depressed after being sober for a while, see a good doctor. 
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: California
Posts: 13
Thanks everyone. I took a shower this morning! Woohoo!!
No, I haven't quit drinking but need to and want to. I made it 3 days last week and then bought a bottle of wine and haven't had a sober day since. I know I need to quit, I don't want to die and I know if I keep going on this way I will. I'm trying but it is so hard....
No, I haven't quit drinking but need to and want to. I made it 3 days last week and then bought a bottle of wine and haven't had a sober day since. I know I need to quit, I don't want to die and I know if I keep going on this way I will. I'm trying but it is so hard....
A work in progress
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
Posts: 16,633
Jewels,
I know what you mean when you say you're trying, but really, the only way to stop is to stop.
Have you thought about a medical detox and rehab? It might help with getting you on track with taking care of the basics like getting a good hygiene routine, getting yourself together without the pressure of going to work.
I know what you mean when you say you're trying, but really, the only way to stop is to stop.
Have you thought about a medical detox and rehab? It might help with getting you on track with taking care of the basics like getting a good hygiene routine, getting yourself together without the pressure of going to work.
Member
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: New York
Posts: 35,731
Jewels,
Sounds like your drinking to get over the break-up. Drown your sorrows. It won't help you one bit. It will make you sad, depressed, uncaring and down right pitiful. The more you drink the worse everything will become.
Please try and get some help. You will feel so much better and think clearer. Maybe see your Doctor and get some help. You CAN get your life back! I know you don't see a way out right now, but there is. Reach out you'll be so much happier.
Best Wishes To You!
Sounds like your drinking to get over the break-up. Drown your sorrows. It won't help you one bit. It will make you sad, depressed, uncaring and down right pitiful. The more you drink the worse everything will become.
Please try and get some help. You will feel so much better and think clearer. Maybe see your Doctor and get some help. You CAN get your life back! I know you don't see a way out right now, but there is. Reach out you'll be so much happier.
Best Wishes To You!
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Germany
Posts: 2,058
Jewels I definitely relate to struggling to take a shower. When I was drinking towards the end....I would go days without showering and race out with minutes to spare looking awful. I just didn't have the energy from all the drinking.
I hope you seek help because once I stopped drinking....I found that simple things like making dinner, showering, and other things were quite easy to do.
Of course it is easy now because I don't spend the morning either boozing and putting off getting things done or laying awake feeling like a zombie....wondering how to get out of bed without collapsing.
Hang in there. There are many options and if I can get sober....ANYONE can get sober.
Stay the course.
I hope you seek help because once I stopped drinking....I found that simple things like making dinner, showering, and other things were quite easy to do.
Of course it is easy now because I don't spend the morning either boozing and putting off getting things done or laying awake feeling like a zombie....wondering how to get out of bed without collapsing.
Hang in there. There are many options and if I can get sober....ANYONE can get sober.
Stay the course.
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