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Hi, I'm new here. First post.
My husband is, what I consider, an alcoholic. To him, he's perfectly normal and I'm just a bitch if I say anything about his drinking.
He went to his high school reunion last weekend. I stayed home with the kids. I have found out that he drank to the point of unconsciousness. It was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me. He's done that before, many times, but I'm just so sick of it.
I asked him not to, he promised he wouldn't, then did it anyway.
We have 2 kids together and his son from his first marriage.
I don't know what I'm looking for here... I'd love a way to make him admit he's an alcoholic and get help. But, I've been beating that dead horse for 12 years now... and he just drinks more and more and more.
My husband is, what I consider, an alcoholic. To him, he's perfectly normal and I'm just a bitch if I say anything about his drinking.
He went to his high school reunion last weekend. I stayed home with the kids. I have found out that he drank to the point of unconsciousness. It was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me. He's done that before, many times, but I'm just so sick of it.
I asked him not to, he promised he wouldn't, then did it anyway.
We have 2 kids together and his son from his first marriage.
I don't know what I'm looking for here... I'd love a way to make him admit he's an alcoholic and get help. But, I've been beating that dead horse for 12 years now... and he just drinks more and more and more.
peaceful seabird
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: floating
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Hi and welcome to the family!
You have found a wonderful source of information and support. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
I am going to share a link from one of our sticky (permanent) posts. It has tips for the family of active alcoholics. Here is the link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
You are not alone. We are here to support you
You have found a wonderful source of information and support. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
I am going to share a link from one of our sticky (permanent) posts. It has tips for the family of active alcoholics. Here is the link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
You are not alone. We are here to support you
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Join Date: Aug 2002
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Hello and welcome! Pull up a chair, make yourself at home. You're among friends, for sure. It helps to read some of the "stickies" at the top of the forum. You'll see many of us have stories and situations similar to yours.
I , for one, spent a really long time wishing my A would admit he had a problem and would seek help. It ended up that in his mind, I was the problem. I decided to seek help for myself, and today my life is richer, fuller and happier for the experience.
I , for one, spent a really long time wishing my A would admit he had a problem and would seek help. It ended up that in his mind, I was the problem. I decided to seek help for myself, and today my life is richer, fuller and happier for the experience.
A work in progress
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: South Jersey
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Welcome! I second the recommended stickies (or should that be "third" it?).
We've all been in your shoes. None of it makes any sense. Alcoholism is just plain crazy-making for everyone it touches, from the drinker to the family, to the bosses and coworkers, to the family pets.
You'll find a lot of good support here, and in the rooms of Al-Anon, which I also recommend.
We've all been in your shoes. None of it makes any sense. Alcoholism is just plain crazy-making for everyone it touches, from the drinker to the family, to the bosses and coworkers, to the family pets.
You'll find a lot of good support here, and in the rooms of Al-Anon, which I also recommend.
Climbing hills, flying down...
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: By the Sea
Posts: 565
Welcome to SR! There is so much support here, so please post, share, read, and learn. I so relate to what you said about "beating a dead horse for 12 years". My alcoholic sister has been drinking for 15 years, and I probably begged, pleaded, and reasoned for her to stop. But she didn't, because she isn't ready to. As you've probably already figuring out, they won't stop for you; they will stop if/when they want to. In the meantime, you can make things better for YOU regardless of whether the alcoholic changes.
Hope you'll stick around, and sending you hugs!
Hope you'll stick around, and sending you hugs!
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