Wicked Weeble Wobbling
Wicked Weeble Wobbling
Hello dear friends on SR,
My daughter was jailed on the 18th of this month for domestic assault (against her boyfriend who she is not to be in contact with) and another minor in possession (she blew a .219). On the 17th, she was tested in the morning for another probation she is on and blew dirty on that test.
So, two blatant probation violations in one weekend.
Her arraignment was on Thursday this week, and I got to see her in person, although she was in the "jury box" habdcuffed and wearing the jail uniform. She was crying and saying "I love you" with sign language. She looked shocked when the charges were read, but, she doesnt remember much of that evening. She also asked that I write to her.
I very much want to write the perfect letter, but of course, that is just my magical thinking at work. What have I said up to now that has made any difference? I think very little.
this is what i have so far.
MB, I love you very much. I miss you very much.
I am sorry you are in jail. I will not be bailing you out, I hope you get a ninety day alternative to incarceration (rehab) and work it like your life depends on it, because it does.
Love
mommy
PS, your kitty is fine. I am taking good care of her.
Please help me with some encouragement that is not codieness.
Oh, btw, I clutched my codependent no more book to me like a holy roller at services. When the judge asked, "Are you going to bail her out?"
I said, "No way, it must stop here."
She nodded and said good.
Anvilhead, come and take the pillow I have been throwing under her a$$ for years and give it to your dogs to tear apart. My dog is a miniature dachshund with very little teeth. She can't do it.
My daughter was jailed on the 18th of this month for domestic assault (against her boyfriend who she is not to be in contact with) and another minor in possession (she blew a .219). On the 17th, she was tested in the morning for another probation she is on and blew dirty on that test.
So, two blatant probation violations in one weekend.
Her arraignment was on Thursday this week, and I got to see her in person, although she was in the "jury box" habdcuffed and wearing the jail uniform. She was crying and saying "I love you" with sign language. She looked shocked when the charges were read, but, she doesnt remember much of that evening. She also asked that I write to her.
I very much want to write the perfect letter, but of course, that is just my magical thinking at work. What have I said up to now that has made any difference? I think very little.
this is what i have so far.
MB, I love you very much. I miss you very much.
I am sorry you are in jail. I will not be bailing you out, I hope you get a ninety day alternative to incarceration (rehab) and work it like your life depends on it, because it does.
Love
mommy
PS, your kitty is fine. I am taking good care of her.
Please help me with some encouragement that is not codieness.
Oh, btw, I clutched my codependent no more book to me like a holy roller at services. When the judge asked, "Are you going to bail her out?"
I said, "No way, it must stop here."
She nodded and said good.
Anvilhead, come and take the pillow I have been throwing under her a$$ for years and give it to your dogs to tear apart. My dog is a miniature dachshund with very little teeth. She can't do it.
Yes, I have to take care of kitty, even though I am not a cat person.
sigh.....
she is a beautiful cat with hair as soft as an ermine coat.
very friendly and actually plays fetch.
the dachshund doesnt understand fetch.
sigh.....
she is a beautiful cat with hair as soft as an ermine coat.
very friendly and actually plays fetch.
the dachshund doesnt understand fetch.
Any way, just because you are "wicked", and just because you're not a cat person, and just because she's soft as ermine (whateverthehellthatis), you best not be entertaining any wicked ideas about making kitty an accessory.
I had 2 different dachshunds when I was a kid, niether of them understood much at all, as I remember. But they were quite silly looking and very entertaining.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
wicked ideas about making kitty an accessory
and ermine is like mink, (or a type of mink anyway) yeah, this cat is okay. she will live.
But they were quite silly looking and very entertaining
i do love her, and she weighs only 10 pounds!
Oh my the parental figures and boyfriend stories I could tell you!
But, just getting to know me now, before I try a boyfriend again.
There has to be a whole man out there somewhere.
yep.
Got hope.
But not withering away waiting for prince charming either. enough with the fairy tales.
Beth
well, she is black and white, just as cruella de ville would like.
and ermine is like mink, (or a type of mink anyway) yeah, this cat is okay. she will live.
of course, i think my dachshund knows everything about me. especially my moods. and since she is a black and tan, she has very expressive eyebrows! lol
i do love her, and she weighs only 10 pounds!
and ermine is like mink, (or a type of mink anyway) yeah, this cat is okay. she will live.
of course, i think my dachshund knows everything about me. especially my moods. and since she is a black and tan, she has very expressive eyebrows! lol
i do love her, and she weighs only 10 pounds!
We lived in Houston, and at night there were toads everywhere in our neighborhood. The 2nd one I had use to catch toads, and apparently they had some chemical they discharged though their skin that would cause her to foam at the mouth and look rabid. Ah, good times.
"Well Christy, I can see you've been eating toads again". Ha!
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
I love the letter, full of love, hope, and boundaries in a few short sentences. Sometimes I pray my daughter wil be arrested.. cannot believe she hasn't been yet. You seem to know just what to do..keep following your instincts.. you know about recovery
My kids are younger - My biggest fear "how to protect them from themselves"
Well along with sexual preditors, disease, natural disasters and acne.
I can't imagine your pain. But you seem incredibly strong.
Well along with sexual preditors, disease, natural disasters and acne.
I can't imagine your pain. But you seem incredibly strong.
"Well Christy, I can see you've been eating toads again". Ha!
foamy toads! hehehehe my dog sees squirrels as her mortal enemy, chases them up a tree and barks at them like they are gonna come back down for a whuppin!
keep following your instincts.. you know about recovery
I can't imagine your pain. But you seem incredibly strong.
Are you writing the letter for YOU or for HER?
How painful that must have been to see her like that. I'm so sorry
and thank you for the hugs, i will go to an al-anon meeting today, and get some face to face, and even let people hug me!
if you swoop in with that fluffy pillow and take away any of the discomfort, you rob HER of the lesson.
she has the strength and the smarts to do this, my hope is she uses her powers for good instead of the same old same old.
tomorrow will be a week since she has been in jail.
i feel strangely serene and peaceful.
i miss my daughter, but not the chaos that comes with her.
Your support really means a lot to me.
thank you.
group hug, cyber style,
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