Originally Posted by ellima01

AH left on mother's day for the "farm retreat" as in my last post- I told him I wanted a divorce- he agreed, 2 weekslater on memorial day he begged his way back and of course I caved. He admitted to me that during his last rehab in FL he met a woman, and that after I told him I wanted a divorce he had been with her- the retreat was a lie- everything was a lie. I was devastated- crying just a basket case. He said he would do anything to make it right- and of course I caved again- lets give it ONE more one more chance. He did everything right- planning a wedding vow renewal to start over- meanwhile the crackwho**e he had been with began stalking us. We changed phone #'s 3 times, she came to the house and he went (without any coaxing from me) to the police and got a warrent for her arrest. I thought, OK- he is doing the right things- This last Fri nite I worked 7p-7a- he txt me all night - love you, miss you , cant wait to renew our vows and begin a new life- I show up Sat morn and the crackw**re car is in my driveway and they are together in my basement her laying in his lap- my son asleep upstairs. He was so drunk he thought I had left wrk early. So I beat the crap out of the chick and made them leave.
I am so humiliated at my stupidity and I am so DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now I am worried about him being able to get visitation w our daughter and worried he will take our 1/2 our house- even tho the only reason we have this house is that I sold a house I owned previous to our marriage to put down on it. You guys all told me and I chose not to hear. But It is over now.
He has take 3000$ from our savings in the last 31/2 wks so now I have to take out a loan to pay my attny. Its worth it tho. His parents are supportive of me - relieved I am finally doing what needed to be done long ago- still hurts- he was telling me he loves me while this wh**re is in my house. I will never trust again.

Originally Posted by ellima01

AH's dad went with me- it was really hard- they had me go get a DVO- which I did, He said AH could have visitaion but only supervised- which made me feel better. Also said the house and contents will be mine (house will be consiedered premarital property). There have been tears today- I just feel sad. I know I am doing the right thing- but it is so hard. I feel so alone- Attorney said it may take a long time to get this divorce over with because we are not completely sure where AH is- He may be staying with the prostitute he had in my house- who knows. I just can't help but be sad - for me, for my daughter who never asked for a drunk for a dad. not to mention an idiot for a mom.- And in some sick way, I miss him.