HFA

I told my SO that the past 4 months that she thought I was sober were a big lie. It was very hard to tell her. Ironically, one of the strenths of our relationship is honesty and trust. I am honest in everything but this. I know she will never understand how my stupid addictive brain yells bad ideas at me all the time. Of course she was hurt and devastated, but I think we will be ok. I couldn't go clean without coming clean. If that makes any sense.

Dee74

I hope its the start of something good for you both HFA.

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super71

HFA,

Good move - can't move forward with honesty if you are holding back the lies.. I am sure it was very hard, and the fallout won't be fun - but you did the right thing and it shows you value your relationship with both your SO and with your sobriety. Well done!

Kmber2010

HFA, I am glad that you told her and took that step. When I relapsed while my husband was traveling.....well he knew from a phone convo that I was drunk again but he didn't say a word. A few days later I crashed and got sober for real. I then spoke to him about a week into my sobriety and I told him what happened. He was so happy for me and told me that he had known from the last call that I was drinking again. He said he wasn't sure if I was going to be sober when he called this time but heard me and was happy and even more so that I was honest about my relapse.

Picking up my friend is so important. If we aren't true to ourselves and step up then getting clean will always elude us.

I wish you continued strength in your recovery. You are on the right path. Learn from this and move forward. Sobriety is there for you....