Please guys - this is for Almay777 - encouragement !
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Please guys - this is for Almay777 - encouragement !
Almay is a newcomer to our site and she is really struggling with Day 1, please any form of support or advice would be welcome to help her get past Day 1. Thank you all so much , you are the best. ''You are a star and u can do this Almay, we are all behind you!''
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Thank you so much.xx
Thank you so much for your support I dont know what to say. Except now I really want to do this so I can write I'm on day 2. I have been so tempted to lie when I havent got through day 1 but I wont. I wont do it. I will always tell you all the truth. You cannot support me if I lie. I am really going to try today, I really am. Just keep busy and keep reminbding myself why I need to do this.xx
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I am not part of a group. I work full time and am a mum so it is very difficult for me to attend meetings. This is why I love SR. Its great to communicate with people who are living or have lived the same nightmare I am living right now.
Whats stopping me from stopping if this makes sense is how bad I feel. I am scared of something bad happening to me. I know drinking will only make my health worse but when I'm drunk I dont care. I hate that I dont care about me.xx
Whats stopping me from stopping if this makes sense is how bad I feel. I am scared of something bad happening to me. I know drinking will only make my health worse but when I'm drunk I dont care. I hate that I dont care about me.xx
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Originally Posted by almay777 
Whats stopping me from stopping if this makes sense is how bad I feel. I am scared of something bad happening to me.
With full disclosure that I have not quit 100%, I'll say that they key to getting through a night for me is PLANS. I will tell my husband in the morning that I'm going to the gym at 7pm (or whatever). And then I'll mark out pages of a book to read. And I'll go to the market and choose a special tea to drink that night. It sounds mind numbing I known but over time these are things I really enjoy now (that I would have totally rolled my eyes at not even 6 months ago).
But I follow those plans like I follow other events on my calendar. I just do it.
FWIW I drank as much (or even more) than you do. I did stop cold turkey (which I know is not advised but I had random RARE and involuntary sober days that never caused any ill-health. I am a 'slow' drinker so I'd drink say 8 drinks in 6 hours... Don't know if that makes a difference in terms of assessing your withdrawal risk).
Did you talk to your husband yet? I'm not at a point where I'm ready to face a lifetime of sobriety but I am more than ready to start to build a life where alcohol is no longer my 'go to' for everything. So that's what I told him. That I was looking to find new ways to celebrate, grieve, de-stress, socialize. And that I was going to do an 'experiment' and stop drinking as part of my every day routine. It got me the support I needed. He is still drinking, actually but that's OK. He is not an alcoholic.
You can do it. I could not possibly count how many mornings I told myself that I wouldn't drink that night. And how many middle of the night panicky hours I would spend berating myself and promising myself I wouldn't drink. All to find myself pouring a huge glass at 4pm.
But make a plan for what you'll do INSTEAD of drinking. Without that plan I had no hope. It is embarrassingly shocking to me how much I enjoy the sober things. I returned a video the other night at 8pm with my kids. 8pm! And I could drive!! On Saturday someone unexpectedly came to the door at lunchtime (I was alone). I was dressed! And not hungover! (and not drinking a glass of wine 'because it's lunchtime on a weekend'). It's a whole new world.
You can do it.
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Go Almay. You can do it! Just keep active and take it an hour or even a minute at a time.
There are online AA meetings too, but I don't know much about them. I'm sure one of the other SR posters can help you there.
There are online AA meetings too, but I don't know much about them. I'm sure one of the other SR posters can help you there.
Persevere, Never give up!
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Originally Posted by almay777
Thank you so much for your support I dont know what to say. Except now I really want to. Just keep busy and keep reminding myself why I need to do this.xx
Persevere, Never give up!
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If you need a reason to give up, think about your precious children, think about how much more you could give them, nothing bad will happen, GOD is watching you every step of the way and HE is holding you in the palm of HiS hand, just hold onto HIM and walk confidently into tomorrow, sober, bright and fresh to take on a new day! Hugs xxx
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Hi Almay what time is it by you? how u doing? - If you've reached the end of your strength, you are allowed to lean on GOD's strength. HE offers you HIS miracle-working power - not only for today, but for all the tomorrows of your future. HIS power is new everyday. Use this inexhaustable source of power to recharge your spiritual batteries daily.
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We're all behind you here. 
I always made promises in the morning and broke them by the time late afternoon came around. After doing this for years, I finally saw (duh) that I was going to repeat that pattern every day unless I reached out for help. What was scary was knowing that it was only going to get worse.
It OK to make sobriety the #1 priority (before work and kids, even) - you may have to do that initially. Have you looked into any other options: treatment, doctors, etc....?
Sorry you're hurting, almay. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
I always made promises in the morning and broke them by the time late afternoon came around. After doing this for years, I finally saw (duh) that I was going to repeat that pattern every day unless I reached out for help. What was scary was knowing that it was only going to get worse. It OK to make sobriety the #1 priority (before work and kids, even) - you may have to do that initially. Have you looked into any other options: treatment, doctors, etc....?
Sorry you're hurting, almay. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
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