Tired mom
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Tennessee
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Tired mom
Iam new to this Thread.I am a mom.My son is trying so hard to stop drink alcohol.He told me he was having withdrowers.And that when he want it so bad.
.Idon't know how to help him.He has try everything Ihave told him.But it doesn't help.
Can someone tell me what to do?
.Idon't know how to help him.He has try everything Ihave told him.But it doesn't help.Can someone tell me what to do?
peaceful seabird
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: floating
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Welcome to the Sober Recovery family, Sassy!
We are glad you are here. You have found a wonderful resource of information and support for yourself here. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as possible.
These are some of the things that have helped me to cope with a loved ones alcoholism:
Reading and learning about alcoholism
Reading and posting on SR (here)
Attending Alanon meetings
Understanding the 3 C's of addiction:
I did not cause it
I can not control it
I will not cure it
I am sorry that your son is suffering from alcohol withdrawals. This can be dangerous to his health. He should seek professional medical assistance in attempting to halt alcohol consumption. Then,he can find help through local AA, Salvation Army, other support groups and Addiction Counseling to maintain his sobriety.
Here is a link with tips for helping your alcoholic:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
We are glad you are here. You have found a wonderful resource of information and support for yourself here. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as possible.
These are some of the things that have helped me to cope with a loved ones alcoholism:
Reading and learning about alcoholism
Reading and posting on SR (here)
Attending Alanon meetings
Understanding the 3 C's of addiction:
I did not cause it
I can not control it
I will not cure it
I am sorry that your son is suffering from alcohol withdrawals. This can be dangerous to his health. He should seek professional medical assistance in attempting to halt alcohol consumption. Then,he can find help through local AA, Salvation Army, other support groups and Addiction Counseling to maintain his sobriety.
Here is a link with tips for helping your alcoholic:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
Persevere, Never give up!
Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Stellenbosch, South Africa
Posts: 882
Hi, just wanted to welcome you to the family, there are lovely people here who can help you, withdrawels are hard, has he been to a Doc. its much better if he doesn't go cold turkey and we don't know how long he has been a drinker. Keep yourself informed, read on SR and keep posting. Hugs
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: LA - Lower Alabama
Posts: 5,068
Let me be more blunt than the others. Acute alcohol withdrawal can be deadly. Alcohol w/d is much worse than opiate w/d for example, which while painful as hell is almost never fatal. Alcohol and benzo w/d can kill you without medical assistance.
Does he do any other substances? If so it is even more dangerous. The only thing you can do is get him to a Dr. After the acute w/d stage, get him into AA or another recovery program if he is willing.
If he is not willing to do any of the above there is nothing you can do, it is out of your hands.
This will help your son. Pelican's post and link can help you.
Does he do any other substances? If so it is even more dangerous. The only thing you can do is get him to a Dr. After the acute w/d stage, get him into AA or another recovery program if he is willing.
If he is not willing to do any of the above there is nothing you can do, it is out of your hands.
This will help your son. Pelican's post and link can help you.
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 4
Thank you so much everyone.
I told my son a couple of week back.To go to AA.He said that he has bend.You have to get up a talk to everybody.And he couldn't do that.
My son is a very quite person.
I told my son a couple of week back.To go to AA.He said that he has bend.You have to get up a talk to everybody.And he couldn't do that.
My son is a very quite person.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,236
Hi, Im Sharon and Im an Alcoholic.
By the grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
Welcome.
Family intervention placed me at
the doorsteps of rehab some 19 yrs
ago. It was my family doing for me
what i couldnt physically do for my
self. Get the help i so desperately
needed to get off that merry go
round and rollercoaster of drinking.
I stayed there for 28 days with a 6
week outpatiant aftercare program
tacked on recieving the tools to learn
to stay sober one day at a time and
knowledge about my alcoholism.
I was a listener instead of a talker
in meetings. My sponsor told me
that when the right time came and
id feel comfortable then i would
speak.
Today i still listen and absorb the
messages and occassionally speak
sharing my own experiences strengths
and hopes of what it was like before
during and after alcohol.
As long as i continue to live the steps
of our awesome program in my every-
day affair then im guaranteed another
days sobriety.
There are many that have stayed sober
for a many a yrs working a recovery
program. So it is possible for your
son to do the same.
There are many wonderful cool people
here in SR that will suggest things to
help you and ur son work in the direction
needed to achieve sobriety and live a
happy life.
By the grace of my HP and people
like you here in SR I havent found
it necessary to pick up a drink of
alcohol since 8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
Welcome.
Family intervention placed me at
the doorsteps of rehab some 19 yrs
ago. It was my family doing for me
what i couldnt physically do for my
self. Get the help i so desperately
needed to get off that merry go
round and rollercoaster of drinking.
I stayed there for 28 days with a 6
week outpatiant aftercare program
tacked on recieving the tools to learn
to stay sober one day at a time and
knowledge about my alcoholism.
I was a listener instead of a talker
in meetings. My sponsor told me
that when the right time came and
id feel comfortable then i would
speak.
Today i still listen and absorb the
messages and occassionally speak
sharing my own experiences strengths
and hopes of what it was like before
during and after alcohol.
As long as i continue to live the steps
of our awesome program in my every-
day affair then im guaranteed another
days sobriety.
There are many that have stayed sober
for a many a yrs working a recovery
program. So it is possible for your
son to do the same.
There are many wonderful cool people
here in SR that will suggest things to
help you and ur son work in the direction
needed to achieve sobriety and live a
happy life.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: LA - Lower Alabama
Posts: 5,068
You do not have to talk at an AA meeting if you don't want to. Has he actually gone to a meeting to see what it is like? Has he actually stopped drinking? If so please get him into the ER if needed, as I said alcohol w/d can be lethal.
Also remember you cannot cure him,he has to want it for himself.
Also remember you cannot cure him,he has to want it for himself.
Member
Join Date: May 2010
Location: central coast, ca
Posts: 1,652
You do not have to speak at AA meetings..honestly sounds like an excuse to not go...I am mom of an addict. My advice is for you to go to alanon, learn to get out of the way, and let him find his own recovery. Thats what i am doing..its hard but neccissary.
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