Flippingyrl

My fiance and I had a long talk last night. He is aware of all my hesitations and worries with our future together - about his future of staying clean. We have agreed to start going to family counseling, talk more often about anything that comes to mind, him going to more meetings, and me going to meetings of my own. He told me to take as long as I need to make my decision. He said he would understand if I want to postpone the wedding for the time being. He doesn't want me to commit if I'm not completely sure of us. I know that I will never be 100% sure since an addiction is a life long battle. I want to be as sure as I possibly can.

I'm not saying its a fixed problem, but we are taking steps that are needed.

Chino

Good for both of you! You're about to go down an incredible road of self discovery, and that you're doing it willingly from a place of calm instead of crisis, is amazing!

Ann

I too think this is a healthy plan that will benefit each of you.

Let us know how it works out, I'm rooting for you both.

Hugs

Flippingyrl

Thank you both for the positive and supportive reponses. I will keep you updated. This site has really helped me understand my situation more.

Krys

It seems as though we are in similar spots. My ABF will no doubt be popping the question in the next 12 months and I don't know what to do. I am inspired by your decision to go to therapy together. I have been going on my own, but I think your idea could help us tremendously.

Christen

That's really good to hear. What a smart plan you two have made. Way to go!

dollydo

Couldn't agree more, great plan!

Flippingyrl

Thanks... I am feeling a little better about things. Only time will tell...