Open Letter to AH on Sarcasm
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Open Letter to AH on Sarcasm
This is an OL to my AH whom no longer lives in the house and comes twice a week in the morning to spend time with his son (10 months old). I don't know if he's drinking or not and says he's going to AA meetings but I don't ask anymore.
This is from this morning before I left to work and was running around getting ready.... my house isn't totally clean (so what?!!) Thanks for letting me vent. Otherwise I would send this email to him and I KNOW in my heart it's pointless.
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Hello,
This is something I am working on not doing. No matter you are 'partially' joking. It's still not fair.
You try working full time, caring for a baby, paying bills, keeping the house running, grocery shopping, going to Al Anon and working on me etc. and then see how you feel when someone says something sarcastic to YOU like "Nice Room, it looks great" and "The basil isn't doing well" and "Oh so you haven't taken care of the light, and you did it wrong" also, so what if the trash is loose? It's in the barrel! My whole point to this email is that I didn't hear you say one nice thing to me. And that really makes me question what I'm getting out of this marriage, except someone who is so nit-picky and judgmental about everything that I'm doing 'wrong'.
Oh and I want to write "BITE ME". LOL, but yeah, it's pointless.
So I'm posting on here instead.
I have to let go and let god today. But writing it out really just helped me let go. Thank you.
This is from this morning before I left to work and was running around getting ready.... my house isn't totally clean (so what?!!) Thanks for letting me vent. Otherwise I would send this email to him and I KNOW in my heart it's pointless.
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Hello,
This is something I am working on not doing. No matter you are 'partially' joking. It's still not fair.
You try working full time, caring for a baby, paying bills, keeping the house running, grocery shopping, going to Al Anon and working on me etc. and then see how you feel when someone says something sarcastic to YOU like "Nice Room, it looks great" and "The basil isn't doing well" and "Oh so you haven't taken care of the light, and you did it wrong" also, so what if the trash is loose? It's in the barrel! My whole point to this email is that I didn't hear you say one nice thing to me. And that really makes me question what I'm getting out of this marriage, except someone who is so nit-picky and judgmental about everything that I'm doing 'wrong'.
Oh and I want to write "BITE ME". LOL, but yeah, it's pointless.
So I'm posting on here instead.
I have to let go and let god today. But writing it out really just helped me let go. Thank you.
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I did end up chatting with him (in a friendly manner) online about how his behavior this morning made me feel.
He apologized and said he didn't realize he was doing that and the he will work on it.
I don't know if that's true. But I am proud that I recognized that I deserve to be treated better and I spoke up. That's progress for me. Repeat after me... I am not a doormat.
He apologized and said he didn't realize he was doing that and the he will work on it.
I don't know if that's true. But I am proud that I recognized that I deserve to be treated better and I spoke up. That's progress for me. Repeat after me... I am not a doormat.
I have found how tidy a woman keeps a home, how fashionable her looks are or how thin she is are all ways to try to tame women and 'put her in her place'.
'At least my soul is clean, unlike others' would have been a good response... lol I NEVER think quickly enough to provide good responses....
'At least my soul is clean, unlike others' would have been a good response... lol I NEVER think quickly enough to provide good responses....
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