Told him exactly what I thought of him
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Told him exactly what I thought of him
I told my stbxah what i thought of him after he told me he was "vacationing with friends" while I struggle with paying the bills. It felt good to get it out. I realize I was reacting but I feel a huge sense of relief. I told him I wanted a divorce and I do. This surprises me as I have been sooooo back and forth with this. My HP will be there with me. Maybe this is the closure I needed.
I feel slightly guilty of all the curse words in the email but I am done with the last 3 months of the most excruciating pain I have ever felt. And the years of pain before that which I thought were bad. I formerly acted like a doormat. Today I felt like I took my power back. May God forgive me for this but I couldnt even help myself.
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No longer a doormat.
I feel slightly guilty of all the curse words in the email but I am done with the last 3 months of the most excruciating pain I have ever felt. And the years of pain before that which I thought were bad. I formerly acted like a doormat. Today I felt like I took my power back. May God forgive me for this but I couldnt even help myself.
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No longer a doormat.
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Quote from Lulu ((May God forgive me for this but I couldnt even help myself. ))
After what stbxah has put you thru, I see God as throwing hands in air, leaping up and saying, "I think she's got it,... by George she has got it. She got it ....AT LAST."
Followed by great rejoicing in Heaven.
God bless
After what stbxah has put you thru, I see God as throwing hands in air, leaping up and saying, "I think she's got it,... by George she has got it. She got it ....AT LAST."
Followed by great rejoicing in Heaven.
God bless
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Do it. And remain strong and fearless because he will attempt to suck you back into his vortex of ****, they all do. Never react to his crap - he will make it difficult for you not to - they will go to extreme measures to re-engage. The quacking becomes deafening. The slander, the character assassination will become a regularity in your life I'm sad to say, but keep on moving!
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Originally Posted by Duped 
Do it. And remain strong and fearless because he will attempt to suck you back into his vortex of ****, they all do. Never react to his crap - he will make it difficult for you not to - they will go to extreme measures to re-engage. The quacking becomes deafening. The slander, the character assassination will become a regularity in your life I'm sad to say, but keep on moving!
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Originally Posted by lulu1974
I have blocked him but he doesnt care. I have been replaced. New enable that is all he needs.
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Originally Posted by lulu1974
I have blocked him but he doesnt care. I have been replaced. New enable that is all he needs.
Now, go take a warm bath put on some smoothe jazz and sip some iced tea.
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I know I don't really speak for God - none of us does... wanted say that your HP knows what is going on and only wants to support you.
I personally believe that we are not judged, and receive support for all things.
I think every situation is an opportunity to express the power of us and our HP.
You will be very OK!
i would like to share my quandry yesterday. I was praying for my marriage. When I got home, there were two messages waiting me - one on working through marital issues and the other said it is time to go. At first I was confused, then I read each again and saw this - the message of it is time to go focused on letting go of unhealthy situations, and the letter was about working through things together. I realized that they both pointed out what I already know - I need to leave the unhealthy part of my marriage and build the healthy part. It takes two to do so - and he isn't willing to work at it now. So I am right where I need to be working out my life without him so far.
I personally believe that we are not judged, and receive support for all things.
I think every situation is an opportunity to express the power of us and our HP.
You will be very OK!
i would like to share my quandry yesterday. I was praying for my marriage. When I got home, there were two messages waiting me - one on working through marital issues and the other said it is time to go. At first I was confused, then I read each again and saw this - the message of it is time to go focused on letting go of unhealthy situations, and the letter was about working through things together. I realized that they both pointed out what I already know - I need to leave the unhealthy part of my marriage and build the healthy part. It takes two to do so - and he isn't willing to work at it now. So I am right where I need to be working out my life without him so far.
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Originally Posted by KerBearz
Lulu, I have always been told that when the time is right, I will know it. Living in limbo is very difficult ~ stay strong!
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Do a little dance, make a little love, get down tonight. Woooohoo, get down tonight.
When I got to this stage, the peace was GIGANTIC. The hurt was much less than the relief.
And I need to make a correction, you have not been replaced, HE'S just been replaced
BUH BYE!
When I got to this stage, the peace was GIGANTIC. The hurt was much less than the relief.
And I need to make a correction, you have not been replaced, HE'S just been replaced
BUH BYE!
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